Just like your parents

One thing I swore I would never do and so far haven't is judge who started the many fights! With four kids, aged 5 to 15 there is always some spat or fight. If I see who started it then that kid gets into trouble, if I don't, which is most of the time all the kids involved get into trouble. This is because I was always in trouble at home, most of the time my younger brother would start the fights but because I was the oldest I got into trouble all the time. My Mom even admitted this to us when we were both adults, that she favored my younger brother. So I try not to judge, sometimes it is not easy but because of this have found that my kids have become good friends and just as importantly they have learnt how to deal with there problems themselves.

In some ways I am old fashioned and yes sometimes I hear myself saying the same things as when I was younger. I am a modern mom with some old fashioned ways for sure. My older children do the same I sometimes hear them saying things they heard me say and I have to laugh about it because they always said I will be different than my mother.

Oh my, its scary isn't it, when we relise we have turned into our parents. Its even scarier when we look into the mirror and see one of them looking back at us. We swore we would not be like them. What the heck happened, we grew up, had kids and learned that our parents were not so dumb after all.

The main thing that I promised myself I would never do when I had children of my own, was to get onto all of my children because one did something. I promised I would never get onto my older child for not watching my younger child, unless my older child was babysitting. When I was younger, I used to get in trouble ALL the time for things my little sister had done. I didn't even have to be around for me to get in trouble. I promised I wouldn't do that to my children. I still only have one child, so I haven't done it yet. I really don't think I will do it even when I have more kids, though. It's not fair. Otherwise, I think my mom did a pretty decent job, so I don't have any other real complaints. I do catch myself doing a lot of things that she did already, but I don't consider that a bad thing.

I swore I'd never try to push my kids to do what they didn't want to do...I'd let them do whatever they wanted to and support them no matter what. Now, since I've never had children I've stuck by that however I did help raise both of my younger brothers and I've been there alot with my niece and nephew and I can't tell you the number of times I've put my foot down and said NO, because I said so!! LOL !!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Oh yeah I do al the time. I even use the same lines as my parents. with my son and before with my nephews. I use to fell so afrustrated with mum and dad for some things now I know that they were just looking after me. Somethimes when the kids do something and I try to explain it to them why they cant do that I use one of my parents lines and than think to my self. Hang on that is exacly what I didnt like then why do I do it to them.

So far I'm doing pretty well with my promise to myself. My mother was never around when I was a kid and I promised that I would never ever make my children have to go through that. So far I'm doing really well. The only time they are away from me is when they are at school. Sometimes I'm even at the school with them. I do admit that I find myself making some of the faces that she used to make at me (when she was around) and that does bother me. Other than that my mom was my model on what not to do as a mom. My grandparents raised me. The only thing that I do that I hoped I wouldn't do is yell. I think it's just a learned behavior that I'm trying to get rid of. I'm working on it. I'm encouraged too since they respond better to the no yell approach. Good question:-)

when you think your parents are old fasion or bad do think them in your kidhood. do like them although they bug you now and you argue more and more tomes.

Everyone always says they will do things differently, and then nope it's the same. I don't have kids yet, but I know, I just know I'm going to be like my mom. :), not saying that's a bad thing.

as everyone know, when we were young, we looked forward to being a adult and control and manage our life by ourself, getting rid of our parents's cage. now we are independent but our feelings may turn to depression, for something lost, what is it?

i think i didn't do anything for them,now i live very hard, so my parents to.but i want to earn money to chang my life,and to help my parents. i love them for ever.