lone parent help

yes you can let then go out but there should be a limit becareful in choosing the friends all friends are not same some are having bad habits and manner they may fall in trap or they may influence to their friend's bad habit or manner because mostly children learn the bad habits from their friends so be careful!!

I'm not a biological parent but I "played" one for a while. Long story. :-) The main thing here is consistency. Set up rules and consequences and follow through with them! With that said, I don't know what your situation is but I believe that you would not have custody of your children if you had not been doing something right in the first place. Trust that. Trust that you've instilled good values in your children and that they will not let you down. Discuss with them what you expect of them. Be fair but firm. Don't be afraid to be their parent. They will appreciate that in the long run. Don't feel guilty if you've made an unpopular decision with them. They WILL get over it. None of us were born parents, we learn as we go and when we are stumped we seek help, just as you are doing right now. Trust your instincts. Keep the communication open at all times. Since you are thinking about these things now it is a good time to get the procedures in place as the longer you let it go the more difficult it will be to get them in place. Some suggestions: 1. You can set a curfew time for each of them based on their ages. 2. Make it a practice of meeting their friends and their friends parents. 3. Stress that you are to know where they are at all times and who they are going to be with. 4. If they are going to be late, let them know that you expect to be notified. 5. Also when they change locations you want to be notified as well. These are some things I would consider and discuss. You know better what is important to you in your relationship with your children. Based on your relationship with them as well you will know which battles to fight and which ones to let go of. Remember consistency though. Just my 2 cents here. I hope that this give you some things to think about. Oh, get ideas from your children's friends parents. Good luck. Lorna/

Hi brightonguy, welcome to mylot. Good question about family life from you, much thanks. Yes I agree with you that every parent need to set up the social life guideline to their children growth and development issue. The guideline is actually means for advantages that would be benefits for both parties, parent and children. For me in general, I will give one point and I believe there will be many ideas and thought from other mylot members. One prime thing is not to allow our children do outing activity at night unless with parent avails. Thanks.