would you wait?

I think if you are on the fence on rather or not to have another baby you should wait, no you really cannot plan money wise to another kid but when you are ready you will know.

Only you and your husband will know when the right time is for you both to have another child. If having a bigger house and or house of your own is important for you all now, then that is what you should aim for. My son is 5 and we have been trying for another for a few years now and have not been blessed yet. We live in an apartment block too and have only been in the USA for a year. Even though financially we may not be totally ready for one, we feel that the right time for us is now, now that my son is older, I am at home still and my husband is doing well in his job. Who knows what the future will bring us, whether we will still be in the USA after his contract finishes in a year and a half and whether he decides to renew it, and so forth, lots of factors come into play, but for now, we both feel that this is the right time for us (its hard to explain) If we are not blessed with another, then that is ok too and we will move onto the next phase in our lives, whether that be building a future here in the USA or moving onto another country or even back to New Zealand. We shall see what God has install for us :) Good luck with you and yours!

Sweetie my answer is simple to this Never have a Child until you are 100% sure and until you think it is the right time no matter what the Circumstances you will always get through it Love and Hugs

well i think that if you wait, you will not be any richer than if you dont wait to have kids. the thing is if you wait until you can afford to have kids and a house, you will never have them.

I think the best thing to do is to wait till you at least have the space and money to care for another child. Too many ppl rush into it and then scramble trying to handle the situation. I'm not saying you have to have thousands upon thousands of dollars saved to have a baby but it shouldn't put a huge strain on your finances. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

i actually planning to have a second child when my daughter reach seven years old because i found difficult to have another child again we want to earn money first for our eldest in her education when i probably finish paying it that's the time i plan to have another child again..planning something for the future doesnt mean you control what's the best thing to do..it only means you only want to secure your family's future, having a dream house for your own is good to make you more comfortable and relax while you and your husband planning another baby again..^^

what is the best reason you need to bring one more child?and to your experience how can you be sure that you can raise them well and wise?

well, the situation will never be perfect, and the circumstances may never be ideal, but having another child is a big step, and one that you both should be in complete agreement about. I have two little boys, a three year old and a one year old, our lives are really just getting back to normal.. it took almost an entire year, to get things down with two. My youngest is quite the strong-willed little guy, he started fighting me at 4 months and hasn't quit since. He weaned himself at 6 months, and refused to consume any milk for 3 days, prob. because i was trying too hard, and he knew it was important. He's a red-head, and has a temper like you wouldn't believe. He's our little fireball, and we love him, but had i known that i would birth such an explosive child, i would have waited for another year. Because we are having so many issues with him, (he screams at the top of his lungs when i leave the room, throws major tantrums when he is told no, and bites often, did i mention he's only 13 months) we will be waiting until he is three to have the next one. I really wanted mine closer together, but i feel in order to get him under control, and have time to spend with him on discipline, and give him the time he'll need, and i'll need, it's best for us to wait. Having said that, As my older child gets older, it has become so much easier. He's potty trained (and has been since the youngest was about 3 months) and can do many things on his own. He'll be in pre-school next year, so i'll have some much needed one on one time with the youngest, and they have become good friends. If my three year old were a bit older, it would be easier, but honestly, it is wonderful. Two is an aful lot of work, but it's a lot of fun too. They play together, chase each other around the house and make each other laugh. My suggestion, if you are hesitant, wait a few months, then rethink it. A few months won't make a huge difference in your fertility, but it may in your descision. A hasty descision is rarely a good, or a right descision. If you have the opportunity, borrow a baby from a friend.. i'm sure they'd love the break, and it will give you a chance to see what you'd be in store for.. when i babysat my nephew (3 months old) I quickly realized that i'm really not ready for a baby anytime soon.. (: Good luck!

I know exactly what you are going through. We've been trying to decide when we want to have our next child, too. When I was pregnant with my son, I thought I would definitely be pregnant again by this time. My son is 20 months old, and I didn't want kids more than 2.5 years apart, preferrably closer to 2 years. That's not going to happen now. We've really been throwing the idea around lately, but now my husband is possibly being deployed for 9 months. I don't want to give birth while he is gone. So we are waiting again. Once we find out for sure whether or not he is going, we might or might not start trying again. We will probably still wait a while, though. We want to get some stuff paid off first. I really don't want to have to go back to work (I'm a stay at home mom), so it will require getting some stuff paid off while I'm pregnant, if we get pregnant soon.

For me I used to want to wait until I could afford one and have a bigger home etc... well God seen that I didnt wait lol I had my kids while living in a small house we moved and had a bigger home and then came the last one and we were crowded again. In the last five years we finally got on our feet. If you wait youll never have kids and for me I wanted them not to be alone to have a play mate.

Well I think it would be best to wait,my and my hubby were living in a 2 bedroom and he had his two kids coming over on th weekend and money was tight,then boom I was prego,lol. It was very hard and stressful,we moved but not until my little one was well over three,so having went through all that I would say wait,but like you said what if? You could try praying to see what you should do,that might help if you do those sort of things,hope I helped.

I think this decision depends on your finance and age. I have a three years old boy, and I understand that bringing up a child really costs lots of money and time. So it's better to consider it well when to have a baby. Because once you have a baby, you have to be responsible to him/her no matter how hard it is. If both of you are still young, why not wait for some time?

I believe it works out good when Kids can grow up together. But many people like to try to plan out every thing. But some thing like kids can not be planed out so well. I say if you want more kids get on it and stop trying so hard to plan for it.

It all depends on the two of you and your prioriies, i guess. I have 4 children and only the first was planned. All were conceived and born in very questionable times in my life. I have raised them alone and I would not change a thing now. they are my world. everything always works out just as it should. it really does. I do agree that it makes much more sense to wait until you have your own place etc. I didn't have that option. I got pregnant 3 times on various birth controls. I would have given anything to be able to raise them in a beautiful home with a loving husband. It did not turn out that way but I will tell you....They are all grown now except for one who is 13 and they are all beautiful, caring, hardworking young women and they are my best friends in the world. follow your heart.