how do you deal with the upcomming holidays when you loose a love one

First of all, I would like to say that I am so sorry for your loss. Believe me, I know what you are feeling. I lost my mother at ten, an aunt at 13, and my favorite aunt in 2005. The fact that the holidays are the time that you hurt the most, is really hard. My best advice to you is to pray for strength and take it one day at a time. Sometimes all you can focus on is going to sleep and waking up again. Don't let anyone or anything decide for you how or if you should celebrate the holidays. Don't pretend if you are not happy. You make up in your mind right now that you are going to give yourself permission to do whatever is best for you. Remember to pray, if you want to get through this, the best way is to pray.

For me it sucks when the new year starts because my aunt passed away on January 15th, 15 days before her birthday. And it really gets hard, it's been 7 years, 8 next year, but we just try to think of the good times we had with her and it does get easier with time, but it's still always there. I wish you nothing but the best.

To lose somebody we love is just devastating and its hard to cope up specially if it happens during or near special occassions or holidays. However, life has to move on and I bet these loved ones we just lost wants us to do the same... move on... so why dont you do that. That doesnt mean we have to forget them. Still, remember them and think that they are happy where they are now and they want you to feel the same... Happy. Time will come that you will meet them again... Just dont hope it will come soon. You can do it, just believe.

I am luck enough as my relatives are not so close to those holidays,but somehow I am much more happy as my living relatives. They are so ture and near us,and we can touch them as we can see them every morning when we open our eyes. Often, on that day, we will miss the lost one more,why don't just let us miss her?Told her your life, your future planned cheerfully. Someone is hearing what we say.

Hello there, I know how you feel. My mom passed away in my arms two weeks before Thanksgiving. It took us a long time to get over it. I am the eldest and my mom was very close to me. Around Christmas time is the hardest time for me since we always went shopping together. My mom was always wait for me to come home to trim the Xmas tree. My daughter was born Dec 23. and I know mother love is so great than anything on the world. Let me share with you the pain in your heart. But remember one thing, she is always in your heart and in your mind. You can do something you and her used to do together like I just did to my mom's memories. some times I talked to her when I had problems or something that put me down. Your daughter have been a part of your life and she always will be. May God be with you.

i've just lost my best friend on oktober this year, its very hard to me lost one of my best friend