Pending Friends

WOW, Thats a lot, I cannot believe it..Surely they would have logged on , or maybe not obviously..But from 11 months ago, Id say they have forgotten all about mylot..

I accept just about every friend requiest. This is because I believe that everyone needs a chance. There is no reason for me to deny anyone. I must admit to go throuygh my friends list every nowe & then & deleting non active members, simply to keep my friends list simplified & organised. If I receive too many notifications from a friend, uch as ten oir more in one day, I delete them too. If any friend posts inflammatory remarks, or is obviously a scammer, I delete them also. I haven't checked my pending friends request in a long time. I very, very rarely send out friends requests now.

This is an interesting discussion Bel and more so for me as I seldom come here to mylot anymore, spending most of my internet time in another forum. However, I have noticed that every time I do log on, I have a whole swag of friend requests. These days I no longer accept friends, because of the little time I spend here and prefer to respond to discussions started by existing friends. One thing I did not though is that there seem to be a lot of people who make a friend request when they are first new, although they might not have responded to any discussions at all of that person. Talking to another friend on mylot who also has a higher rating, we found that we both got requests from the same people. It might be that some of these new people are requesting friends of those who have a higher rating. I have no idea. The other thing is that when I checked on several of these people who made a request, I saw that at least 2 of them had literally thousands of friends. Now these 2 were very new to mylot and there is no way they could respond to even one discussion started by each of their friends. Well, maybe they could eventually but I calculated that it would take them about a year for one, as she/he had over 4000 friends. Crazy. I would be sorry if anyone deleted me as a friend, but it will happen I know, simply because I am no longer very active here on mylot. If it happens, then it does and I will be a little sad but at the same time I will understand why that person took the steps that they did. I come here to mylot maybe a couple of times a month generally and that is all. That means there is no way that I can respond to all of my friends discussions. Now I choose a couple of friends and then respond to all of their discussions, and maybe eventually I will get to all of my friends.

I have a few names on pending friends and upon checking, find that they are not active. Can someone explain why people join of theirr own choice and don't ever participate? I find this really weird.

I agree with you - I can't see why it's so hard to accept or deny friendship. I check my pending friends every couple of days, and I deal with them there and then, so I don't get a build up.

For me I dont send friend requestly often, but I receive alot of friend request and I accept them as they come. I never leave them pending at all, it sounds rude if someone sends a request and ignore it.