my cousin had wanted a child
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
United States
October 16, 2007 4:49pm CST
she had been very promiscious married the first guy who paid attention to her. That marriage ended in divorce and 2 miscarrages. 10 months ago she had a baby by a boy friend. hes the cutest little guy. OK heres the reason for the post about 4 months ago she was iinvestigated by the child protective agency, the baby was taken away and then was given back with the notion that she would have no animals ( there was feces all over the place) well even though she doesnt have any animals her house is a mess and she never has food, she owes about a years worth of rent. The child is going to be removed again and the family has asked that he be placed with one of the family members. The only family members that can apply for adoption of the baby is my sister and my cousin (they dont have 4 children like i do). I was just told that now its down to my sister because my cousin had a miscarriage and didnt get counseling but sence shes had another baby succesfully.
tHE QUESTION: do you think its right that they can decline my cousins application because of a miscarriage with out counseling?
4 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
17 Oct 07
I do not believe that should make a difference unless a Dr. or someone told them that she was having problems dealing with it. It sounds very stupid.
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
17 Oct 07
in my opinion shes doing better then some who have lost children specially under the circumstances..
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
17 Oct 07
No, I don't believe that is fair to her. Not all women need counseling after a miscarriage. I suffered a miscarriage at about 7 weeks pregnant and didn't know I was even pregnant. Sure it was a loss,but it didn't really affect me as I didn't know until I miscarried that I was pregnant!! They should let her adopt if she wants to. Good luck and keep us posted!!
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Ok I understand their reasoning for it, because of all the depression that it causes and all that, but I do think it's wrong for them to rule it out. What if she was fine, that the miscarriage didn't affect her. It's wrong.
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
16 Oct 07
i agree I could see them saying no if she didnt have a child sence the miscarriage but sence she had i dont see why they said no
@quiethorse (337)
• United States
16 Oct 07
That doesn't sound right to me. Child protective services is a very necessary organization but I sometimes wonder if they make the right choices.
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
16 Oct 07
As much as i hate to admit it I agree the child should be removed from the parents home i dont agree that my other cousin (the one who miscarried) isnt going to be able to adopt the child shes more responcible then my sister
