adopted children
By redbubbles
@redbubbles (329)
Philippines
October 17, 2007 8:49pm CST
When is the right time to tell a child he or she is adopted? Some said it is best to let or tell him/her that he/she is adopted at a very early age say at age three. But there are some who said that they should be told the truth at age where they can fully understand the situation and able to handle the truth - elementary or high school age. I don't know, I'm just worried about parents who have adopted child/ren and children who are adopted. I'm afraid of the consequences or turn out of events once they know the truth. I have a friend with an adopted child who is already 5 years old and still doesn't have any hint at all that she's one. I think my friend doesn't have any intention or plan at all to tell the child because they don't have a child of their own.
2 responses
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
I think the best way to tell the child if she is adopted when she reaches at age 16 and above. At this stage, she already has understanding and can be able to tolerate and accept the fact.
Counseling, support, and encouragement are necessary on this matter.
There are successful families out there who also have undergone the same problem as your friend. They are now living happily ever after.
Have a nice day and God speed!
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@redbubbles (329)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
I agree with you. Counseling and support is necessary because even if one is mature or old enough to understand the situation but if without any proper guidance and support, all will turn out bad. Best regards.
@thefriendlyghost (68)
• Canada
18 Oct 07
My brother isn't exactly adopted. He's my mom's biological birth son but not my dad's. My parents actually started dating before he was born because his dad left, so my dad has always been there and IS my brother's dad, regardless. Our parents told him when he was 15 or 16, old enough to understand. It has never made any difference in our family and the way any of us feel about each other.
@redbubbles (329)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
I'm sorry i have just responded now. Well, it's nice to know that telling him the truth doesn't make any difference in your relationship. That's because he has been loved also by your father as his own son also. Best regards.
