DO you believe in DIVORCE

Espiritu!!! *hug attacks* "it doesn't say that you will go to hell if you get a divorce. As human beings we are not given the right to judge another persons spiritual condition or their relationship or lack thereof with God." I love what you said here! I know you and I don't always agree on everything, but I'm really happy you commented here. Despite what I might have made it sound like here, I don't believe in divorce as a "first resort" but I do think there are good reasons for it (abuse being the main one). And I love what you said about not judging. That's actually one thing that really confuses me about certain religious people: the constant need to judge despite the fact that their own religion says not to do so. That's what I like about you so much, that you aren't like that! =)

i'm well aware that we don't have a patent on marriage. what i'm saying is take the idea of marriage and make it fit the lifestyle of ppl today. although some ppl get married at the courthouse, they still recite vows from the bible. you took my comments and slapped "christian" all over it. i'm not about slapping names on religions. you believe in god then you believe in god. even if your god looks different than my god i'm sure he's the same person we just have different ideas of him. also the 2nd marriage would allow homosexuals to make their "business deal" also. not many religious marriages allow that...i can't think of any bible that okays that. so it is different. it isn't "x religion" vs. "y religion" it is "religion" vs. "lifestyle" if a person wants a religious marriage and think they're up for it then let them. if someone is living a wild and crazy lifestyle, and they know that they're not ready but want to give it a try then they should only have a legal marriage so they won't burn in hell when their divorce comes in the mail 3 years later.

1-if you get divorced then you obviously weren't ready for marriage, or keeping your word 2- if there is no hell then everyone can just go around killing without punishment. (now do you honestly think that that makes any kind of sense?) 3-it shouldn't be called marriage to distinguish between a religious marriage and a simple legal marriage. with the legal marriage, even homosexuals could marry since it is more of a ...business deal. honestly complicate things? 1/2 of marriages divorce and you're worried about complicating things! at the rate we're going pretty soon only 10% of marriages will last. that huge 50% says that ppl are not ready to religiously marry or they're marrying for the wrong reasons AND the don't keep their word or commitments. I THINK FOR THE PPL LIKE THAT, THERE SHOULD BE AN ALTERNATIVE TO MARRIAGE TO FIT THEIR IMMATURE, WIMSICAL LIFESTYLE.

1:Yes, I meant that. They obviously weren't ready for the marriage, so they should get a divorce. That was my whole point =/ 2:And many people who are killers do get punished in the long run. Hell just doesn't seem real to me. 3:What exactly is the difference between a religious marriage and a legal one? What about people who are legally married but aren't religious? Where are you getting these statistics from? All the best, Commonsense0 PS: I may have replied fast this time, but if you reply don't expect an answer for a few hours because I am on the schools computer and the period is almost up.

"1-if you get divorced then you obviously weren't ready for marriage, or keeping your word" So people who fake and play nice and wait until after they're married to beat, rape, abuse or control their spouse makes the abused spouse weak, not ready and unable to keep his/her word? Sorry, I don't but it. There are hundreds of reasons why people get divorced. Being ill-prepared for marriage only covers a small number. "2- if there is no hell then everyone can just go around killing without punishment. (now do you honestly think that that makes any kind of sense?)" The majority of the commandments are not only common sense, but common decency. Don't lie, cheat, kill, etc. Not to mention the fact that real-world law takes care of most of it anyway. Why does everyone *have* to believe in an imaginary world of hellfire and brimstone that punishes people for anything from pedophilia to not paying for a coke exactly the same? Again, I don't buy it. Also, I thought "He" was all-forgiving? I thought repenting "wipes your sins clean" and makes it like it never happened? What about that? "3-it shouldn't be called marriage to distinguish between a religious marriage and a simple legal marriage. with the legal marriage, even homosexuals could marry since it is more of a ...business deal." Marriage is not exclusively Christian, you know. They didn't invent marital partnership, they just figured out how to regulate it. Big freaking whoop. Not everyone who gets married has a Christian ceremony in the first place, you know? Why should non-Christians be degraded and invalidated to nothing but "a buisness deal" just for having a different belief than you? "honestly complicate things? 1/2 of marriages divorce and you're worried about complicating things!" Um...yeah. Why should there be segregated terms for the exact same thing based solely on religious practices? That's not only stupid, but against the constitution. "at the rate we're going pretty soon only 10% of marriages will last." Ummm...No. It doesn't really work like that. If anything, pretty soon marriage will become obsolete thanks to narrow-minded fundamentalists like yourself who think that non-Christian relationships should be degraded and segregated. "that huge 50% says that ppl are not ready to religiously marry or they're marrying for the wrong reasons AND the don't keep their word or commitments." No, it doesn't. Quite frankly, you have no idea why those people are getting divorces and to presume they're all just stupid is ridiculous, insulting and just plain wrong. Grow up. "I THINK FOR THE PPL LIKE THAT, THERE SHOULD BE AN ALTERNATIVE TO MARRIAGE TO FIT THEIR IMMATURE, WIMSICAL LIFESTYLE." I think you need to learn to use proper capitalization, not be such a judgmental and narrow-minded b*tch, and keep your damn nose out of other people's lives. You have no right to invade or judge anyone or try to control them based on *your* personal beliefs that NO ONE is obligated to agree with.

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