Asking Questions...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 18, 2007 1:49pm CST
Recently, my Mom asked me to join a pre-paid legal site. I told her I would but then decided to start looking into them more. I also asked her and her friend that got her into it lots of questions. I decided that it wasn't for us. My Mom says I ask too many questions.
We went through the same thing a few years ago when my youngest brother, my other brother, my oldest brother and his wife, my Mom, my Stepdad and one of their foster kids joined the Mormon church. My Mom wanted me to join and get baptized as well. I talked to the Missionaries and afterwards I told my Mom that it just wasn't anything I wanted to join. I didn't slam their church and I was always polite to the members but I just didn't feel like it was for me.
My Mom says you don't have to know everything up front. That's why most places (like pre-paid legal) don't tell you everything up front b/c it's too confusing. I believe that before I jump into anything I want to know everything about it...or at least a good share of it.
Do you think I may be asking too many questions and I should just take some things on faith? Do you think that ppl that don't look into things are taking a chance on getting burned? Do you ask alot of questions or just jump in?
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48 responses
@bizmom (515)
• United States
18 Oct 07
OH WOW!!
DONT CHANGE!! u asking questions have most likely saved u from horrible choices and ones that might have ruined u! financially or otherwise!
SO DONT STOP asking Q and getting the info upfront!!
U wouldnt buy a sweater without KNOWING the size right?
why do anything else MORE important without knowing EXACTLY what ur getting into!
Im willing to bet ur mom has gotten into some *scams* in her day for NOT being careful! :( sadly!
SO dont change!!
Ur doing well!!
XX
@catskisses (434)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I ask questions, especially if I am being asked to join or pay for something. If anyone pressures me to 'take it on faith' I figure there must be something they don't want me to know. Questions is what got me thrown out of the church (Baptist) in which I was raised when I began deciding for myself what spiritual path I wished to follow. I think I gave that preacher ulcers with my questions lol. I occasionally join something onine without asking every question, as I did here, but only if it is cost free, does not ask for too much personal info and I know I can withdraw at any time.
And no, prepaid legal is not for me either lol. I am 51, have all my final legalities in order, done without a lawyer which is acceptable in my state. I have never been in court for more than a traffic ticket. For what I'd have paid in since I was first asked to join Prepaid Legal Aid, I can well pay a lawyer to represent me if need be. We do have a family friend who's a lawyer, but he now does corporate law only. He'd gve me a good reference if I needed legal help. Most of what I want to know could be answered for a $25 hour at the local Legal Aid office (not the same group, these offices are in most large cities giving new lawyers experience). I have used them with fine results.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
18 Oct 07
I most certainly do ask a LOT of questions before I jump into anything. I'm like you twoey, I like to know what I'm getting into, and therefore I do a lot of research, and ask lots of questions - I don't care what they think of me for it - I need to know, for my own protection.
Too many people jump into things without doing their homework, and often get burnt as a result. It's good to be careful and think about things before making a decision.
The thing is, what is good for one person doesn't necessarily make it good for another anyway, we all have different needs and wants, and we have to do what we feel is best for us as an individual.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I'm one of those people who has to research something before I will jump into it. I have to know everything and I know it irks a lot of people but I don't care. I'm the one doing whatever it is not them.
@goddessglamourpuss (261)
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18 Oct 07
I guess it depends on the questions you ask. If the answers will give you a clearer understanding then I think it is fine to ask as many as you like. If they provoke arguments or are always along the 'why' route then maybe it is a problem.
Personally, I like to thouroughly understand a new venture before jumping in and if the information I need isn't readily available then I would definately ask questions. I guess it all depends on your viewpoint really and whether you are prepared to take things at face value or not.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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18 Oct 07
Keep asking questions. Many people lose money on sites because they don't ask questions. As for religion, that is an area where you need to ask questions and find out if it's right for you. Ask as many questions as you need to and make your own decisions based on what you find out. I was taught always to ask questions, it's the best way to learn.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
18 Oct 07
You are doing the right thing. You're the type of person who's NOT going to sucked into the next scam going around because you're smart enough not to jump into something without to check into something first.
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
18 Oct 07
When it comes to business you don't take anything on faith.
You try to find out everything you can, this is called due diligence.
It is up to you to check out things before you get involved with them in order to know what you may be getting into.
That saves you from making mistakes that you might regret later on.
The same is true for everything you do, from religion to politics, and even everyday life.
When someone tells you that you ask too many questions, then the next question should be "What are you trying to hide that you don't want me to know?"
I want to be as informed as possible before I jump into something.
Knowledge is power, and the lack of knowledge can really hurt you in many ways.
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I'm with YOU!! I want the answers up front! Expecially when there is a contract to sign. Better to be safe than sorry... I don't like surprises later. There is nothing wrong with doing your homework and prospecting an idea fully before you sign on!
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
19 Oct 07
Oh twoey, i never do anything by just jumping into it,I always ask a million questions.I want to make sure i know every little detail about anything i go into,and i not only do it but i wait and think about it a lot after i ask the millon questions...Your Mom sounds like she is very trusting and that is good to a point but she should be more cauious,you can mess up real bad jumping into things...Just tell your mom like i use to tell mine..I would tell her "mom i am happy for you but its just not for me,but if you are happy then i think thats great...It has nothing to do with you Mom,i love you but i just cannot do things on the spur of the moment...I will let you know if i change my mind..
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
19 Oct 07
That's a great statement. Just letting somone know it's ok for them to be happy with the decision, but also letting them know that you don't have to make the same desicion to be happy.
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@luintaurien (972)
• United States
21 Oct 07
I think that it is better to be prepared than to just jump into something. People who do not ask questions are asking for trouble. THey will end up getting scammed by someone because they do not look into anything as well as they should.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
18 Oct 07
OMG! That is insane! To jump right into something without knowing all it entails is just plain insane!! That's how so many get scammed because they go in on blind faith and don't ask questions! I'm with you all the way gal. Ask ask and ask some more. Then go with your gut instinct not with your heart or because someone says so but with your gut instinct or you could get burned right along with the others. It's always much better to be safe than to be sorry. Your mom is a very nieve person and is going to get burned one day if she doesn't use a lot more caution. I pray not but that's what con artist' are looking for.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I think that you ar very smart to ask too many questions. then ask some more. If you don't ask those questions who know what you could be getting yourself into.It's best to not do this unless you do ask a lot of questions especially with religions. You need to know what it is all about and what is expected of you.
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
21 Oct 07
It all depends on the situation but asking questions is always the best way to go if you ask me.
Because I do agree if you just jump in without any information you just never know what you are getting yourself into in this day and age.
I believe you did the right thing.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
21 Oct 07
I think you have every right to ask as many questions as you want to. Jumping in without being self-assured and knowing the risks will often end up in you getting burned. Especially if the opportunity requires some financial investment, you need to know as much as possible up front. I would take my time in getting to know a situation, because it will still be there at a later date if it is legit.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I think you have every right to know everything about what you are getting involved in. To not ask questions would be stupid and lead to a horrendous mistake. I think you did the right thing and if they can't give you the answers, how are they to sell their product to anyone if they don't even know enough about it? I don't think your asking too many questions and in matters of finance, you can't always just take things to faith. I think people who don't do their research, don't think to ask the questions and just go in blindly are asking to get burned and worse. I always ask questions!
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@smileymom (169)
• United States
20 Oct 07
no asking questions help relief tention, plus you have your own right to know what is you want to know.
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