When do parents accept that you're an adult?

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I'm 20 years old, I have a child, and I have moved out of my parents house, but my father continues to want to treat me as a child. I understand, regardless of how old I get, I'm still going to be his daughter, but I'm no longer 2 and when I was 2 he wasn't there. He has a way of trying to do everything for me, and trying to tell me what to do, but ends up getting his feelings hurt when I tell him otherwise. Like, with my son if he cries my father automatically demands that he comfort him, and becomes upset when I tell him no. Also, my mom said very harsh things about my child about 2 months ago, and I haven't talked to her since, and he felt because he is my father that if he says, 'talk to her, and make things right', that I'm going to jump. Yes she is my mom, yes he is my dad and I love them both, but I'm not a child anymore. I respected them for 20 years, and it's time that they return it. I just don't understand where that mindframe comes from.