Suddenly she has a kid. Solve this

better you can withhold an oredal of pregnancy in the near future.you got a free kind

I would not doubt her, I would sort of doubt myself. What was it in me that made her decide not to tell me earlier? How on earth did I manage NOT to create the sort of closeness that would make her tell me as a matter of course? How come I missed each and every signal that MUST have been there? On a somewhat lighter note: good grief, how could I overlook a rugrat? Be well! Jaap "the Hitman" Verduijn.

Okay first off it doesn't mean she is dishonest, How do you know how badly tormented she was about this? Or if she thought she would lose you if you found out sooner but since you proposed she knew you loved her fully so as hard as it was for her or is for her she told you before you were married so you could decide if she was still worth loving and being with. I think she doesn't tell anybody because it is something that can be used to hurt her But as I said since she knew you totally loved her and wanted to marry her then that just shows she trust you with her secret now.. That is not dishonesty. Now her not telling you and you finding out for your self would be considered dishonesty only and only after you were married. You should still respect and love her like always and don't be to fast to judge her or her secrets. We all have secrets or little things we keep to ourselves and woman hold things in do not be hurt further or it thrown in their faces the mistakes they may have made or things they did. So just love her and be glad she shared.

there can be a sort of hurt feelings there because there was a secrecy done on my part. but then, if i really love her, having a kid does not really matter to me. as long as we can change for the better, things will go fine.. i guess.

Though its hard to judge her,if she kept this from you for two years, i guess she's a good liar. How can one keep a child especially when you are having a relationship. Or she hasnt seen and be with her kid for more than two years, but even so, I wouldn't trust her anymore.

How does one hide that fact that they have a child for two years time. Do you have a problem with children? Would there be a reason for her to feel that she couldnt tell you that she had a child? Either way that is a big deal. Her child should be the most important person in the world to her it puzzles me to think that she would even want to hide her child. Honesty is the best policy and if she didnt feel that she could tell you that she has a child she may have some issues that she needs to work out for herself before she makes a commitment such as marriage. Also beware if she hid from you for two years the fact that she has a child she is good and that may pose as a problem.