How wud u feel if u love someone but ur family wants another man/woman for you?

It happened to me when I was 23 years old. I had a new girlfriend we get along quite well, she's kind, intelligent and we have much things in common. Then my mother discouraged me and told me that they like my first girlfriend better. Oh boy! I was even told that they were doing some actions for us to be back again. My new girlfriend decided to work abroad, so I let her go and finished the relationship. And now am with first girlfriend and after a year got married.

No I've never been in such situations. I have older brother who had quite a few girlfriend before and my mum didn't like som of them. But I live in a family whe we respect eachother choices so he just was told that it's his free will who does he want to be with. And I think it's right thing to do. if i was in love with someone who isn't approbated by my family I could consider their reasons but still it would be my decision to be with him or not. And I can't imagine that someone else could choose my partner but myself:P

ya. i have. but i do respect my parents. they are the one who care for me the most. every time something have hurt me , they are the ones who have stood beside me. so they do have a say. and more importantly if not me then who will make them happy?

No I have never been in this kind of situation! But if I am in a relationship, and we are both in love with eachother, and he is a good guy-than I stay with him. I'm just lucky that if that was the case my family wouldn't be pushing the case, even if they didn't like him for whatever reason. they would just want me to be happy.

Agree with you!I cant stay with a man who I dont love though my family like him.I think marriage is my own business and I will stick to my own idea.If my parents dont like the person I love I will try to persuade them to accecpt him.Fortunately my parents will not do that for me because they respect my own decision.

I am in madly love with my husband..When i met him for the first time,it was love at first site. When i told my parents about him, my parents were against this marriage n there was a time when i felt that there is noway my parents would ever agree.. But my husband came to my home n met my parents n that time i knew this guy will never leave me n once again i was in love with him..Finally we won the battle n happily married.. so if you are truly in love n you know this tis the person you will definitely convince your family...

This hasn't happened to me personally, but I've been involved in a situation like this. In fact, I'm the person the family doesn't want their child to be with! My husband's family doesn't like me, but for no real reason. They've never taken the time to get to know me. They (his mom and her boyfriend) just don't like that they no longer have my husband to do slave labor for them. As for his grandma, she doesn't like me because I'm not Portuguese. I'm "ruining" the blood line. When we told her we were getting married, she told my husband about how she has a nice Portuguese girl lined up for him back in the Azores and how she could cook, clean, and be a good wife. All while I was standing right there! Lol! I try not to take it personally, but it's hard. My husband mother was a neglectful one who never cared about him. Now, he does have someone that cares about him and she doesn't like it. It's not my problem, though. If the situation was reversed and my family didn't like my husband, I'd still be with him. I love him with all my heart and nothing could change that. I'm not with him to make my family happy, I'm with him because he makes me happy and that's all that matters.

In the Indian context in all human probabilities I will stand by the parents.Here the families are more conservative so you cannot tell what's up the sleeve of future.If you decide and act your own against your parents there is more chance that they will not have any concern for you even in troubled times.So many will be there to blame and laugh at us if we act against the wish of the parents.Here the culture is entirely different from that of the western ways.So it is always advisale to stand in support of the parents.

I don't think I wud come by such a situation.. My family has always been supprotive of me and my decisions.. And I don't think that they wud ever reject my choice.. They wud supprt me no matter what.. But still if there's an outside chance of that happening, I wud talk to the girl my family has choosen and let her know the real story that I am in luv with some other girl, so it wudn't be right for me to marry her, and wud like her to help me and let my parents change their decision... And I know it wudn't take long for them to change thr decisions...

I don't tell anyone who to love, so why should they tell me. I don't let anyone control me. It's like giving up your freedom. In fact it's like giving up life itself when you have no control over it. To heck with them if they hate me for my decisions.

i´ve got a friend who´s getting married in a year for the person she has never encountered in her whole life... i know it´s hard for her but it´s their tradition so she has nothing to do about it... but if that really happens to me, i´d rather not to marry than to marry the person i don´t really know.... i don´t know what is he like and i don´t know if we could create a happy family....

Amen to that! Soemtimes they dont come around but as I see it this is my life and after all I will be living with the person not the family. So their preferences are not mine and should not be forced on me. I would go with love.

If i love somebody i don't think that my family would say something.I think that my family would understand me they would not impose somebody because they would understand the true love.

no i havn't and will never experienced it because i have a very supportive parents who always listen and understand me.. but thinking that i will be in that situation, of course i will fight for my love as long as i know that were not doing bad.. that he loves me so much.. and that there are no reasons for me to give up my love to him..

Well when i was 16 i "LOVED" my boyrfriend of almost 2 years... we didnt have a wonderful relationship and everyone new it.. even though i new it as well it didnt stop my feelings for him.. i loved him and i hoped he would change.. for almost a year my friends and family would do whatever they could t make our relatiosnship end.. i fought with my friends and family because they would try to point out things i already new or they would attempt to hook me up with someone else.. it was horrible.. i love my family but i loved him too and he wsant trying to make me chose why were they?? so because of this each time they said or did something i wanted to stay with him more... i think it was the rebel teenage gotta be stuck on you love inside of me. FINALLY i came to my senses almost 2 years later!! i met then man whom is now my husband.. He new me for less then a week and was saying the same things my family and friends were saying and to me it meant something because he wasnt saying it to break us up in a mean sense he was saying it in a reality sense... sure i know now it was all to get me to date him which i am thankful for but he wasnt cruel or tautuing in a sense about the whole thing... even now 8 years later i still apologize every once in a while to those dear and near to me that i nearly puched out of my life over that boy that i "LOVED" ...

When I was young, about 18 years old, I had a boyfriend whom my father detested so much. It was such a difficult situation for us. He was a nephew of my aunt and worked in her business right next door to us everyday. The minute my dad's eyes would land on him, my dad would get so upset, so angry all day long. It was a relationship that was futile, not meant to be. We would meet clandestinely. It was so difficult, I hated feeling like a rat hiding all the time! It lasted for three years, and then I finally broke up with him. We never saw each other again after that, until I already had 2 kids of my own and he probably had a family by then. I guess that wasn't true love after all.

ive been with this situation already. i runaway! i was so mad at those time. i felt they were being selfish and so inconsiderate of them not to let me decide on my own. well that experience made me what i am today. i didnt end up with this guy[the one that my family hates so much!] anyway. but now my family wouldnt mind whoever im with. i think they pretty much convince that i could handle it on my own. still i know that they are always there.