who do you turn to when you have a problem ?
By xingkong178
@xingkong178 (298)
China
October 20, 2007 2:16am CST
so,who do you turn to when you have a problem?friends?i think most people do that,or parients?or ask for suggestion online?
as for me,i always handle the problems on my own,acturally,it is the situation when i was a small boy.because i always think that as a man you should always on your own.if you always ask for help,it is showing that you are weak.
but i almost never ask for help,and i find it hard to open the mouth if i want help.i known that it is not right either .am i too reserved?I like open minded friends ,but i am not open minded.maybe ,i should change myself.
am i right.maybe we should firstly on our own.if we cant settle it,then ask for help,am i right?
10 responses
@laurika (4532)
• United States
21 Oct 07
You know again this is very similar with me.I like to help people but when I have problem I hide them inside me.But this is not right thing, it ould only annoy you more and more.I figure that out very soon and I am trying to be more open to my friend about my problems.In my case it wasn't about showing weak...becuase you friend would understand..in my case it was about why to bother them..btu we just cannot thing always about others.remebr munber first is you and after that are others.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I attempt to handle the problem myself but if the issue is beyond my comprehension or understanding, I talk with my husband. Next I seek the services of our daughter who happens to be in the psychology field. She always has very helpful advice. We are lucky to have her as our daughter.
My opinion is most men feel the need to keep issues to themselves and not be so apt to share. Don't think you are too reserved.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
20 Oct 07
All my life I have been through various problems and initially I started depending on my friends and relatives and family, but slowly I realised nobody really cares or understands. Everybody will look at your problems only from their point of view and try to solve it only on the basis of their personal experiences. But above experience, there is something known as wisdom and that too intuitive wisdom. I realised this very late in life. I do take suggestions from people when I face problems, but finally I do the introspection and see what is good for me and then I follow my heart. The best way to solve a problem is by introspection and taking meditative action.
@linnie35 (18)
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20 Oct 07
When I've had problems I've sorted them out myself and I believe it's made me a stronger person but sometimes if I'm in a long term relationship I might turn to my partner but sometimes feel they might add to the problem so again back to sorting it out myself. I've never really went to my parents about my problems as I find when I discuss something with my mother, she doesn't mean it (hoepfully) but she usually tells another person about it and no matter ho much I tell her not too she still will, it's in her nature!
@noriko (1254)
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20 Oct 07
as of now i am amrried i always tell my hubby the problem we think for a solution and work it out. but when i was younger i try to fix up the mess. i am an only child and my parents are always out of the country.
@surajpkn (582)
• India
20 Oct 07
I always turn to my girl friend whenever i have some problems because she is the one who has understood me so well and i really like her presence when i am in some problem. She can always make me feel better. I would also talk to some of my friends and their support is very important for me.
Sometimes, even my mom speaks to me well and she can make me feel better and be supportive of everything i do.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
20 Oct 07
When I was single, my mother is my bestfriend. She was the one who knows what my problems are. Everytime I had a problem, she would really go to my place in the city and pay me a visit so I can have someone to talk to. Right now, I have my husband as my bestfriend. My mom-in-law is also a good buudy and a confidant of me. I am very far from my parents so I can't talk to them like I used to.
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
you and i are quite the same. at first i will face the problem by myself. try to evaluate what the problem is and how i can solve it and just think that its just aother challenge. if i cant handle it anymore, i normally turn to my mother, shes my pillar of support. and yes, its good to know that you have always someone to cry on.
