I am a shy boy
By xingkong178
@xingkong178 (298)
China
October 20, 2007 2:35am CST
I am a shy boy,I always become nerverse when I have to speak in public.My teachers are surprised when they found that i, a big and strong boy,is so shy.In fact,sometimes I was surprised too.Inside I am ambicious and confident,but I just cannot control myself to be shy.It is not until last year did i determined that I will change my character because i become realizing that it influence my study and relationships with others.I took much effort,and thought why i was shy cause there must be a start and some reason.now,I am much better now.not as befor,always have collision in my mind and care not too much.but i have to say that i still have a lot to do to become a real confident man.a man that can always control his mind?do you have a similar problem?
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9 responses
@raychill (6525)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Who you are on the outside does not always reflect who you are on the inside. For instance, some tough tattooed rocker guys are not all tough on the inside. You being a big strong boy is not so big and strong on the inside. This is common in all people.
I've never really been shy because I've always been pretty confident in who I am. That's really, in my opinion, the key. Being confident in who you are both on the outside and the inside and you will no longer be so shy to do things.
@xingkong178 (298)
• China
21 Oct 07
strong man will be strong at last though he is a little weak in some period.i agree with you,we should known clearly what we are and never hide something from ourself then we will be the real strong man,yes?
@mandyb7714 (69)
• United States
21 Oct 07
I also have gotten shy at times and sometimes i still do . I would recommend daily self affirmations to help you gain confidence in all areas of yourself. you may be confident as all get out in some areas but lacking in confidence in others. I would look online for some self esteem boosters and then i would start by speaking in front of small groups and then work your way up. each time you speak step a little bit more out of your comfort zone until at last you have no more shyness i hope this helped
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
21 Oct 07
As you get older you may become less shy i know it was like that for me but i am shy by nature and it is ok. speaking in public is hard for most people i would say, just do the best you can think about what you are saying in front of the class and not what everyone thinks of you. Best to You
@laurika (4532)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Wow that is great to hear that.I am pretty shy too, and you know when I think about it I cannot really find reason why.I don't know I was always like that.Can I ask you where you was starting looking for reasons?But anyway you are right about it need to be quit since it can really blog our personality and relationship with others.This is really interesting discussion, thank you for it.But I think you might change your title.no more shy boy.lol
@buliangxianren (425)
• China
21 Oct 07
all are not shy. i think what you should do is to practise. i know what it is in your mind. we are afraid to fail although we tell ourseves it is not important. but we don't want to be that in our hearts. have a good day.and you will be not so shy .
@davihaze22 (19)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I have seen people who are shy, but they became more confident after speaking up more.
@mepibot (387)
• Brazil
20 Oct 07
Yes, i´m very shy, before i was most, cuz now i take meds for anxiety and this help with social phobia too. But, when i growing up idon´t feel so shy anymore. And speak on public is a normal fear, haha, many people have this, i really hate this days when i have to show my work and speak in front all class, haha. And some grl like of shy boys too! I don´t think is a very problem, relax. (:
@marabdl86 (615)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I'm shy sometimes. I'm confident when i want to be. sometimes im like who cares, and just go with whatever comes to me. I'm really shy and quiet when i'm not liking my day.
It's great what you're doing. Telling yourself that being too shy is unnecessary and you have absolutley no reason to be. remember be confident, not stuck up, and always be yourself and be nice and autoritative only when you have too.
just my 2 cents :)
@navincp123 (442)
• India
20 Oct 07
hey even i share all ur problems.....i am really scared to speak on stages...tats my greatest fear...next speaking to people wen my parents are around....i dont no y i am like tat.....but i got no probs wen i am alone wit a stranger.i can strike up a good conversation......i am trying hard to change myself.....
