My 90 year old neighbour had botulism. Is it fair that.....

With his age and condition, I feel he should have someone staying with him..Who is taking care of his nappies and cooking for him? I don't understand why the family is not there at this time especially... Does keeping an "eye on him" just mean making sure he is picking up his morning paper or mail?...Or does this mean you have to go over and physically take care of him?.... I would voice your concerns about not feeling up to this task...This is the families responsiblity not yours.....That is not being rude... I hope all works out...Keeping an eye out is one thing, but taking care of his physical needs to so much different...

Yeh same here do you actually have to change the old man's diapers?? If not, then i suppose the family just wants you to to just check on him make sure he's still breathing. I doubth they mean to burden yourself with him.

It's not unfair of them to ask. I tell my husband all the time that you will never get a "yes" answer if you don't ask the question. Now, does that obligate you to comply with them? NO. You have the same right to say "no" to the question. If you aren't comfortable with this or just don't want to do it, tell them. I'm sure they would rather you be up front with them so they can find someone that will care for them properly.

If you feel that it is too much to ask then that is what it is....while helping a neighbor out when things are going badly for them is a nice thing to do if you can there is a limit to the ability to do so sometimes...your primary concern must of course be your family first.... I would discuss this with the neighbors family and hope that they understood....there are private sitters and caretakers that can be hired to perform these things for your neighbor...that is their profession and they are very good at it...many insurance comapanies will pay for these services if they are needed and it wounds like your neighbor would benefit more from this type of service than a neighbor who is untrained dropping in to "check" on him. I hope that you find a solution to this challenge, my friend....

It's really good to lend a hand in the needy, but maybe your neighbour had a children to take care for him now that he need it most. Why dont they stay on their fathers side just for now, to make sure that they can give all the best of their care, rather than leave their father alone and let their neighbour take care of him. Beside its a big responsibilities that's why the family of your neighbour must be with him not his neighbour.

The family is asking far too much from you. If they are unable to help care for him then they need to either call Hospice which will provide care in the home or perhaps put him in a nursing home. To care for an elderly person is a huge responsibility. If I were you, I would tell the family that you really do not have the time nor do you want that responsibility.

Am I understanding that this is simply a neighbor and not a relative or close family friend? If so, then yes they are asking for too much. If he needs that type of supervision, then he needs to be where he can get it or have someone live in with him. I'd also wonder why none of his family has offered to move him in with them... **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~