When a family member dies around the holidays do you find it hard to celebrate

@Feona1962 (7526)
United States
October 21, 2007 3:51am CST
that holiday the next year? My first husband died at Christmas time and even after 25 years Christmas is always difficult for me... It has gotten somewhat better over the years but I still get anxious when it nears Christmas time... I make the best of it for everyone around me, but inside I just want it to be over.... Has anyone else ever gone through this...
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Lakota12
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
21 Oct 07
my hubby passed away dec 3 years ago and CHristmas was his favorite holiday we always start decorating nov 1st. and las t year it was hard to get started but got it all up before christmas this year we are starting the first of nov. again and some of the lights are still up so they just have to be tested but it takes about a month to get outside and inside done. want to try harder for grand daughter.
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Lakota12
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Oct 07
Damn that had to be hard for only having that short time together and I can see why you didnt like CHristmas for a time am glad you are making an effort for your grand kids hugs and blessing to make it better this year!
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TerryZ
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
21 Oct 07
AwwwwwIm so sorry about that. I think your right every year does seem to get a little easier. I miss alot of my family that have passed on too. I hope this year is better for you.
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Feona1962
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Thank you Terry. I think just talking about it with all of you makes it easier..I just never had anyone to talk too about it..hugs to you..
3lilangels
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
21 Oct 07
yes my friend,i go thrugh this every year,my father passed away 4 years ago and it was the saddest part of my life and when the holidays are near i do get very upset but i know my dad would want me to be happy and enjoy it as much as i can with the rest of the family and my kids.so i do make the best of it and it kills me inside though.but i dont want to take away the joy for the kids so i just have to be the jolliest person for them,but man inside i am hurting.hugs to you hon.pattie
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Feona1962
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
22 Oct 07
That is what I do too! Put on a good cheer and make the best of it for the grandkids..I don't want their Christmas to be spoiled because of me..
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laurentyu1
@laurentyu1 (743)
• Romania
21 Oct 07
I have to agree that there are hard moments, so you cant celebrate nothing, there are moments in life ....
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gulhasrat
@gulhasrat (21)
• Pakistan
22 Oct 07
of course it is the day of examination. It is very difficult for me
arka29
@arka29 (1)
• India
22 Oct 07
The biggest holiday of my life was when I cleared my +2 amd was waiting for nothing else other than the results to come up. It as around the period my grandfather passed away.I still crerish the memories that I used to play chess with him, he used to tell me stores regarding his life and experience.That used to be my best holiday when I visited his house. Since then the holidays feel incomplete.I try hard to forget it but these memories keep coming back.