Do you know people who, though adults, can't make a decision without
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
October 21, 2007 7:42am CST
Do you know people who, though adults, can't make a decision by themselves..or without asking their mom or dad..
I mean people in their late 20's and up.
You expect people who are younger to need guidance..but once they are older they should be able to stand on their own two feet..
Like do you know a friend..that won't do somthing..because mom or dad will not speak to them again....And the something is nothing wrong...but they simply have no backbone to stand up for themselves..so they let others..mom, dad and friends boss them around all their lives and never make a decision by themselves..
I have one friend here near me..that their friend dictates all their actions, and chooses their friends etc.
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I do know adults that can not make decisions on their own and sometimes it is not their fault. One of my friends is like that and seems to rely on his mom to make decisions for him. His mom seems to do everything for him. He is in his 30s and still lives with his mom. I am worried what will happen to him when his mom is not around anymore.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
22 Oct 07
yes
That would be a worry:) I am glad you are not hanging on at home;)
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Two of my cousins cannot make decisions without mommy and daddy be at their side. It sickens me.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
21 Oct 07
It shows a sense of immaturity if someone is constantly running to ask mom or dad..after they have left the nest..Mom and dad formed us..or tried to .we must demonstrate how well we learned by the lives we live.. Mom and dad will not answer for us if their advice happens to turn the situation we asked about..for the worse..
Advice is all it is meant to be ..some counsel on how to do something..we ultimately must grow up and make our own decisions.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
21 Oct 07
A friend of mine can't make a decision on anything without asking her husband, and I mean the littlest decision ever, and always agrees with him no matter what, I feel a little sorry for anyone who can not think for themselves at all on anything...
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Sometimes I think that kind of thing is a conscious matter..but even married people need some freedom to make choices..women are no longer just seen as the property of men..but have a voice just as much as men;)
@ajesh_pullad (2251)
• India
5 Nov 07
Self reliance is a good and required character.at the same time,make decision with help of grownups is sometimes required.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 Oct 07
There is a difference between asking mom and dad for advice which I do ask my mom for advice frequently. She never steers me wrong! However, if asking your mom and dad about something and they say something like if you do that we will never speak to you again and they continue to listen to them, then that is very unhealthy. Ultimately the decision is that persons, and listening to other peoples advice while good, is not the end all of making that decision. I do make my own decisions, but I do take advice from my mom, then I make my own decisions. I don't really have any friends that let their parents made decisions for themselves.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Exactly...it's one thing taking advice..another allowing others to manipulate your according to their whims and fancy..You can't be truly happy if you have fully and consciously accepted decisions you are making ..If you are a mere puppet..there can not be true happiness.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
21 Oct 07
I'm a really bad decision maker. As in I have a hard time making decisions. But I don't really need "guidance" per say in order to make these decisions.
I do know people who can't make decisions on their own and I always just think it's because they just never really learned, similar to what you are saying, how to make decisions without someone else making it for them or helping them out. It's kind of a sad thing.
From the time I was a kid till present day I've always just done what I wanted whether or not I had a hard time making that decision... I never let others make decisions for me.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
21 Oct 07
I always have an open ear for advice..but ultimately my decisions are my decisions and I am the one who own responsability for the decisions I make ..in the end:)
@LesJames77 (48)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I'll do you one better than that. lol. I work at a department store and one day, a man came in to buy a watch.
I think he must have tried on at least a dozen or so, until finally, he said, "I'm sorry. I just can't make a decision." (Mind you, this was a grown man, in his 40's.)
So I asked him what he was looking for exactly, and maybe if he told me the details, I could find what he liked.
He began this long, unsure disatation about his "dream" watch, until finally, he stopped in the middle. "Again, I'm sorry. I always do this. I can't even choose the right brand of toilet tissue, without my wife's help."
At that point, there wasn't much more that I could say, except, "Well, that's ok. Maybe you can try again, when you're wife is with you." He agreed, and left.
You have to wonder how people like that can survive through a lifetime, if they can't even make a decision about toilet paper...
@miaocecilia (80)
• China
22 Oct 07
sometimes my decision may be detered by parents,but i did chose things on my own most of the time.
