why do people judge first
@easymoney75503 (1702)
United States
October 21, 2007 7:12pm CST
why do people have a habbit of judging someone before getting to know them. as far back as i can remember i have been judged first by the clothes i wear, where i live, etc. why do people look at someone and decide they wont like them or they wont amount to something when they grow up etc. i have seen it alot here lately cause to be honest i dress really plain. i mean jeans and a tshirt. my hair is in a pont tail and i hate putting on makeup. i am me and that is that. well my kids are the same way. our clothes are always clean and everything. my house is always clean too. i just dont dress up. well i heard some comments the other day from people that dont know me and have never talked to me. they thought i was below them though i guess i should say. just because i dont get all dressed up to go to the store and stuff. it really bothered me. i dont want to teach my kids that they have to pretend to be like others just to have friends but alot of people really do judge on stuff like that. why does it matter if you shop at the mall, walmart, or the thrift store. doesnt what is inside count for more. i was taught to be myself and if others didnt like it oh well. i mean i am polite, respectful, hardworking, honest, and i am not an idoit. what makes them better cause they spend 50.00 on a shirt to where i pay 5.00. sorry it is just sad that people think of themselves as worth more then another by what they have in material things. i would give up all my stuff and be honest , hardowrking, etc then be a horses butt and have everything
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@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
22 Oct 07
One reason to judge is for safety reasons. Like if you saw a biker would you consider him to be dangerous? If you saw a bearded man with a shirt with stains on it and pants with stains on it and is dusy would you think he is homeless or lazy?
@SimpleAsABC (66)
• United States
22 Oct 07
That is a stereotype and our goverment has resorted to this type of profiling that has led to harassment of perfectly outstanding citizens.
I will give you an example that goes to the statement you made. When we were kids we lived across the street from a motorcycle group (gang if you prefer that term).
If we judged on appearance we would have moved or lived in fear knowing they were right across the street. In reality the were actually the best neighbors we had and the most caring and giving people I have ever run across in my life.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I would say the simple answer to this is... why do we judge books by it's cover? because the answer to that question is the same.
You just meet someone and you get a vibe. Whether it's just because of how they look or how they dress...it's a vibe you get and sometimes it's wrong but sometimes it's right.
I don't ever think about whether I'm missing out on knowing someone because I judged them, it's just life.
I like to chalk things up to just being life.
@piggiehandcuffs (365)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Well thank California and rich people to star this one. Kids saying your not good enough to hang with them cause you don't got an ipod or whatever... I hate it. I went to highschool in Miami, and it sucked. I couldn't be apart of a "group" cause I didn't have enough money. I didn't buy an ipod or pay $300 to go to disney for one night with my class. I also didn't buy clothes from Abercrombie and Fitch or go to the mall every week. I hate being judged all the time in Miami, but it's the way of life down here... I hate it as much as you do. We all deserve to talk for about 10 minutes before someone judges us.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
I did the best I could not to judge others by their physical appearance, status in life and their intelligence. I've learned that from my friends, who are older than me. They thought me everything I need to know as I was growing up, I became a man and stood every word that comes out of my mouth. But one thing for sure, I don't judge others since it is unfair and inhumane.
I would like to think that, there are still other things that they know more than me. For example, they know how to look for food just in-case food became scarce. I think it would better if we practice being an open-minded person, learn to keep the thoughts we have in our minds if we know that it won't be for the benefit of the good.
@southernpixie (741)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I think it's just human nature to judge others. I think everyone is guilty of it (even those who say they don't). I guess the best thing to do is just adopt the attitude of not caring what others think. I know that's hard because people naturally want to please others.
@SimpleAsABC (66)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I knwo exactly what you mean. I do not buy expensive clothes or anything like that and it is not because I cannot afford it. I actually make enough money to wear anything I want to wear but the point is I do not feel the need to pay outrageous amounts of money for clothes that are no better than the bargain clothes I buy. They are comfortable and I feel look just as good.
Still you can just see the look on peoples faces and tell they think less of you for your clothes. I find this to be extremely narrow minded and feel sad for these people.
They are missing out on potentially great life long friendships because they choose to only associate with people they fel are of a certain "social level".
I have learned in my business not to judge people. I have had business partners that I thought in the beginning were not going to be very succesful and they turned out to be some of my most valuable team members.
"do not judge a book by it's cover" that might be a tired old cliche but it is so very much true.
@luzamper (1357)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
It is the prerogative of anybody to think or do whatever they like. We just maintain our composure and let them. Who are they also to us. Lead your life the way you want to and don't be bothered by the negative criticism of others provided you are doing nothing against anybody.
@isaiah12 (416)
• United States
22 Oct 07
It is too bad, but a lot of people do make snap "first Impressions" when they meet someone. They don't take the time to get to know the person. But it is their lose. Because if they just go by their first impression and don't take the time to get to know someone. They might be missing out on the chance of having a very interesting, special person be apart of their life.
We shouldn't worry about what others think of us. Because in the end the only person's opinion on how we live our lives that really matters is God. So as long as we try to live our lives to please Him that is what matters.
@wishme_luck (249)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
thats right, just be your self.and dont prettend to be somebody a lot of people like that. i mean if thats make you happy and comportable and go on, i like people who are simple and not pretencious at all. yah people have a habbit like that mostly.any way just dont mind them.do what ever make you happy.
@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
22 Oct 07
People judge people because 95% ofd the population has nothing better to do than get into other poeple's business when they should be worrying about themselves. I dont let people bother me anymore, they are not worth it. These people are useless, have no interests and no hobbies so all they have to do is judge and make fun of others. Just listen to their conversations in the lunch room or at the mall to see that I am right. They never anything doog to talk about except what so-and-so is wearing what so-and-so is doing. Don't let them bother you, your better than them no matter what they think!
@milkfish (371)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
Hi easymoney75503. I applaud you for the way you are raising your children. That's the very right thing to do. Do not be bothered by what other people think of how you should live your life. Their opinion is not worth your time. Its a fact that in this world there are really people who make other people's lives their business. These people are failures in their own life and they want to let other people feel miserable like them also. Do not worry about material things and financial wealth, these things are just secondary in life. Money cannot buy us happines nor peace of mind. The most important thing is how we live our life or our values. As long as we are living a decent and morally upright life, we have nothing to fear.
@hopejordan (3561)
• Australia
22 Oct 07
hi there only ones who jugde is that is god he is the only judge and thanks for your discussion hopejordan
@joshespi (20)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
Not all people think that way.. You're just being practical and most people "with sense" admire that kind of attitude. Best of it they or even WE could learn from you. Don't mind those people who thinks they are better than you because in reallity you have much more than what they have.
@marabdl86 (615)
• United States
22 Oct 07
YES!!!!
That's the way you should raise your kids. you have kids now and days with absolutley no care for other people and care notthing but themselves, and how ppl see them. Kids who can actually go through that and experience all that peer pressure tells me alot about them and the parents that raised them. Good job.
