do you feel loved
@aninspiration (346)
United States
October 23, 2007 10:30pm CST
if you are loved do you always feel it or can you be depressed to the point you cant I have a bf that says he loves me but gets so angry at me for stupid l;ittle things I do he also yells about things my kids do and they dont live at home they are grown He yells at my dogs and seems to hate the world then hell turn around and say hes doing it cause he loves me hmmmm Does love have to scare you I cant feel it
7 responses
@mckee104 (12)
• United States
30 Oct 07
in any relationship there are times that you will feel sorry about yourself, discomfort and depression it happens coz were only human we have feelings that are sometimes make us afraid and lonely. but in your case you just need to let him know how you feel about his attitude,then if he do something about it to make you feel better and his so sorry about it thats love! and in your part you need to understand him too maybe there is a reason why he is like that, maybe you can help him be a good person coz thats how relationship is, growing together
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
Yes, I feel love in my partners own way. I should say that our love is not perfect but we always talk about the things that we think is not right for both of us. I guess you should talk to him and tell him that he hurts you in his ways of showing love. Then slowly, if he loves you then I believe that he would try to change his ways for you. You just need to talk.
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 07
my dear,
have you talk personally with him? the communication should be happened between you and him then you will be understand why he acted like that. maybe there is something disturbing his mind so that he being like that. for your own goodness, please dont keep everything of question in your heart. someday, when it cant hold to be longer, it would make problem in next. then your relationship wont be take longer anymore. just try to communicate well with him but you should understand that you face a male species not female one. so you should be different treatment to communicate with him
@lalchetian (410)
• India
24 Oct 07
i beilieve your boy friend certainly loves you and he is right in saying that he does it because he loves you but his yelling is certainly not right he is considering you as his property for sure it is right to some extent but that extent needs to be defined and your boy friend has certainly made a mistake in defining this and you should correct it. primarily boys have this nature which women actually endures to different extent in different situation ideally it should be balanced but this is not the case in our society for sure. but if women have natural tendency, which is again due to long tadition of injustice to women, but you should actually say it in certainly not soft words
my final piece of advice boys are like small kids and treat them like that in such situations with a bit ingridient of romance for this adult kids!!! and you are done
my request if you like the response mark it as the best one otherwise please correct me which i would like
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
24 Oct 07
I used to feel like my ex didn't love me because he never really showed it nor said it. And well I guess I was right since he ended up leaving me one day. But sometimes, when men do want to show us women that they love us, they don't know how to do it and get nervous and end up doing things that show the opposite.
@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
24 Oct 07
He may love you but he is not showing it properly and you deserve more. No one should be yelled at and put down and made to be depressed by someone who claims to love them.
I don't know how close you are with your boyfriend but you should really consider whether he is worth the sadness he brings. It hurts me when I see people taking that sort of abuse when they don't have to. Love is very comforting and you always feel it even if you are mad at someone or they are mad at you.
This guy sounds very controlling and has anger issues. Him yelling at you has nothing to do with him loving you. It has to do with him CONTROLLING you.
Do you want to live like that forever? Really, think about it. You are better than that. I can say that and I don't even know you! Just your post tells me that.