Do you believe a mother or father should try to destroy another's life or chance

that is just wrong. As a mom of a girl who had gone down the wrong path for a time and struggles now to do right...i support her 100 percent and can't imagine doing it any differently. Most parents want to see their children do well. whoever you are referring to sounds like a lousy parent.

I don't think that it is normal to a parent because parents should the first people who think for what is good for their kids and not for what is bad for them. I could not imagine that there were parents like that. They should be proud of their kids' success because it reflects to the parents on every success and good things that's happening to their kids.

Are there parents who really do that? What are they going to gain from it? My father-in-law keeps belittling my husband all the time...but he would never go as far as to send out letters to the place where he works.

i believe parents try to do this to help their child succeed. i sometimes do this to my daughter. she just left a 3 year relationship and didn't do it in a good way, and i keep telling her things about her past relationships, i do this to try to make her understand that what she did is wrong. that is all. we all want what is best for our children, but in trying to understand my kids, i realize it is best to just be there for them.

That sounds exactly like my in-laws. If my husband were to tell them that he or I were going to do something, like in his case pursue a better job, they will roll thier eyes, and sigh and make demeaning comments to indicate that he or I could never possibly achieve what we are talking about, as if we are being stupid and ridiculous. Then once we have achieved our goal if we tell them that, then they will down play it, and sya things like, "Well it can't be much of a job." where as when we were saying about trying to get it they were saying "You wasteing you time trying, you'll never get it". I hate them so much. I barely have words for it.

Hi littlefranciscan, I don't think this a normal way for a parent to act. Parents should always encourage their children, not try to hold them back. Blessings.

I think that parents being over protective cause this problem. But parents should also consider the fact that they will not be there forever for their children. Again if the child is adult and can do good with his choice, why parents are going to interfere. I do not support this attitude of parents.

No I do not think it is normal for a parent to be so hurtful to their child's chances of success. My mother is like that though. I don't know if she truly means to be that way or it is just something that she does without thinking. She is always bringing up everything from my past. If I had an opinion about something when I was 18 and I voice a different one now (at 35) she will jump up and say something along the lines that I am a liar and that my opinion was whatever it was in the past. As if I could not grow and mature and change my views about things. I applied for and got some financial aid for college and my mother is actually angry about it. She says that is is not fair that she is always denied and here I am, someone who has never finished anything getting a load of money. She is really angry and jealous of my Pell Grant. I don't get it. I would think that she would be happy for me, but nope. She has already started pointing out all the problems that I will have if I try to go back to college. It bites. But since there is nothing I can do about it, I try not to worry about it or let it bother me. It's my life and the only person I have to answer to in regards to what I do with it is myself. I am going to college, I am taking a full course load and I will have my degree in 3 years. My mom can be jealous, angry and ticked off all she wants, it isn't going to change my plans.

My late father would not stop me from doing what I wanted but he did try to persuade me from doing what I wanted like applying for my dream job. My mother on the otherhand will always support me in everything I wanted to do. I dont know what is normal or not for parents but I do know now that I am a parent myself that what they did was just protecting us from doing wrong and regretting it later.

Hi littlefranciscan! I think that parents should always be one of the motivating factor for a child to pursue his or her goals or dreams. They should serve as inspirations and always be there to encourage their children. They should be there to support them and guide them. So, I don't think parents who hinder their children's endeavors are normal because when I was young my parents always tell me that my success is their success somehow. Just my thoughts. have a nice day and take care.

Parents are always protective of their children and maybe the one who is doing that has his own reason he is doing so. But there are others who do it deliberately, I have a friends whose mother is bothering - everytime he wants to buy his own house and move out, the mother says no and takes all his money and use it all. She feigns sickness. That is very bad.

I think that a parent should care about the child. But if this child is an adult, the parents have a smal amount of power over you. But if you live under your parents roof.. the can to almost as they like..