Is career competition really a factor to ruin a marriage or it is just male ego?
By rhed07
@rhed07 (23)
Philippines
October 24, 2007 10:03pm CST
I've met top-notch male executives who have very supporting wives who are home makers but I have yet to meet a woman at the same position and is happily married.....
What if you're not the home maker type and happens to be more successful than your partner? Would that pose a hindrance to a successful marriage? Can men actually live with the fact that their wives can be more established and have more money than them?
4 responses
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
25 Oct 07
Well, in my situation...NO! My husband would not be able to handle me making more money than him. He believes that he is supposed to support the family, not the other way around. I don't think it would make us divorce or anything, but i definitely know that he would want me to either quit and find something else or he would do his best to find another job that brought in more. To me, I don't really think it matters who brings in more because once your married it's both of yours anyways. Alot of men though can't handle that and feel inadequate if they are not the ones making the money. I stay at home, but I know that it would definitely make my husband ill.
@rhed07 (23)
• Philippines
26 Oct 07
So what if you have the potential to be rise up in the corporate ladder and is given the opportunity? Would you let it go because it might make your husband feel inadequate? Would your husband feel better that he is "the head" of the family even if your family's finances is struggling?
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
26 Oct 07
You know, that is a tough question to answer. My husband would never want us struggling and I think that he would have a really hard time at first, but I think in the end everything would be okay. I mean, we love each other very much and we've been through alot, so i don't think that that situation would destroy us....i just think it would bruise his ego a bit and he might now deal well with it, but in the same sense i believe that he would be proud. if that makes any sense at all. He can be a very complicated man at times. He is very proud when i achieve my goals, but he also gets jealous at times. I would hope that he would eventually be okay with it. I don't think it matters who brings the money in, like I said before. After marriage, it's both of yours anyways. God bless
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
26 Oct 07
I don't think so it's only a petty ego.As far as my country is concerned there is no problem in women earning more than men and as far as I'm concerned I will be more happy if my wife is earning better than me,at least she will take care of her affairs without bothering me ,how's the idea
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
25 Oct 07
No, Career competition does not ruin a marriage. It supports each member of a family. I know a man with lower education and also lower job than his wife. Wife is an officer and husband is working as low paid mechanic. His wife is supporting with the help of her handsome pay. Both are living like happy people and could not feel any sort of complex. It means that the men can live with the fact that their wives can be more established and have more money.
