How to recover from a broken heart?
By tines2512
@tines2512 (326)
Philippines
6 responses
@amlord1 (19)
• United States
27 Oct 07
well... a similar thing happened to me, but ill try to shorten the story. me and a bunch of friends went on a 2 week church mission trip. i noticed this girl, (recently learned her name was ashley) ,who was (and still is) beautiful. well, we were hanging out A LOT during those 2 weeks. and we started liking each other more than friends. i know i was head over heals for her. i (after 3 weeks) told 2 mutual friends (cousins, both girls) about it...they were so excited apearently, she liked me to.(continued.)
@amlord1 (19)
• United States
27 Oct 07
psp=limited space...
anyway. i didnt know she liked me. she was my first "girlfriend" ... after the trip she was often gone, so i didnt see her much. the next school year, i was going to attend the same school as her (expensive private school), so i figured we would get more time together. i even picked a locker by hers. then, about a week before school starts, (this parts confusing, ill simplify it) i was on the phone with a friend, and she was I.M'ing Ashley. then the friend tells me... (not again..)
@amlord1 (19)
• United States
27 Oct 07
(continued)... " ashley says to tell you she wants to break up" ( if you cant tell, we are teens...) and then, being my friend... and hearing silence... she asks if im ok. "yeah" i lie... i feel like i just got punched in the gut... well, half way through the year, the english teacher rearanged seating. i sat by her... and i couldnt even talk to her. if i said anything, she usually pretended not to hear. it took me another LONG year to get over her. but now she wont even be my friend. rather sad.
@amlord1 (19)
• United States
27 Oct 07
well, i thlnk im close to done now... to conclude, the best way to help your friend is to be a friend, and be thier for him. i remember not being able to talk to anyone. it didnt feel good. i couldnt tell my parents. they would have flipped at the idea of me having a girl friend. my brother didnt understand. most of my friends didnt care. they didnt want to help. as has been said, it'l take time. but it will take less with caring friends.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
Tell him to move on..Start a new beginning. And its not worth crying over someone who is gone..If it comes back to you thats good but if you think ths person is gone then you must move on and wish for the better.
Life must have colours, yes it is sad specially if you love that person then all of the sudden things turned out to be the way you want it..but theres nothing you or he can do about. Tell him to cheer up things will be alright.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I know that it is never taht easy. We could only give advice and I hope this would help your friend to take the courage he needed. If you love somebody, and you really want that person, then do your best to show her your love. Give everything you can. But not to the point that you are loosing yourself. If nothing happens, then that would be the time that you have to let go and accept that there are things not meant to be.
@milkfish (371)
• Philippines
26 Oct 07
My advice is for your friend to grieve and learn to let go. After a hurting situation, we each deserve to grieve and cry over it. After crying a bucket we feel good being able to expressed the pain. Then we learn to accept the truth that it's over and learn to let go. Life doesn't end when a relationship with somebody ends. It means that they are not just meant to be. Surely, he is destined for a better girl and fate will led him to this girl someday, somehow.
@shameh1202 (610)
• Philippines
27 Oct 07
I would like to share the saddest experience I have encountered in my life. It is when I lost someone so dear to me. He's actually my first love. At first, it was really very hard for me to move on. Considering that I have build my world around him. We've made a lot of plans in life. I love him so much and I it was so hard to live a day without him. I kept on crying and reminiscing all the good we've shared. But I just realized one day that it's not the cure. So what I did, I diverted my mind. Instead of thinking of him all day long, I spend some time with my family and friends. I kept focusing on the bright side of life. Right now, I'm living my life as single yet so happy. Because I am contented with it and appreciate all the things that I have. I just couldn't ask for more.
@colgirl (77)
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26 Oct 07
Its a cliche but the only thing that will heal the wound is time. He obviously feels terrible right now, but that is ok - he's supposed to feel that way, its normal, but bit by bit,day by day the pain will gradually fade until one day he will feel able to move on (rather than just simply wanting to). Give him my best wishes.
