Real grandparents
By Dolcerina
@Dolcerina (3376)
Hungary
October 26, 2007 3:33am CST
I am so sad again. My son has not got real grandparents. My parents do not behave as grandparents. My son would like to spend 1-2days in a village, because that is so different, but my parents do not let him to go. My son is only 7 yrs old. I am sorry for him, and I can not do anything. It will be schoolholiday on the next week, and he has to come with me to my workplace, because there is nobody who could be with him. What holiday is it? I am so sorry.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
4 Nov 07
I know exactly how you are felling hun. My mother is the same way she won't take my kids without it being a big fight. She would rather drink than take care of my kids for even 1 days its awful. The last time I asked her she said no, screaming and yelling and hung up on me then 5 minutes later she said yes and that was the biggest mistake of my life. My son ended up by himself because my mother and her bf got into a fight and her bf left. She realised she had no smokes and went to the store and left my 4yr old by himself in a bad neighbor hood.
All we can do is be there as much as possible for our children so they don't feel left out. you could maybe suggest doing to a movie or something after work so he gets to do something special on his holiday.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
5 Nov 07
Oh wow thats awful I don't understand why some parents are so cruel. My mother wasn't like this until she had us outta the house. We had an ok childhood.
I am sorry for what happened to your boy and I would talk to your son about what happened just so he can get it off his chest.
Hugs
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
5 Nov 07
At last they called me back, and said they let me to take my son to there. I answered I had asked them just because my son had wanted to spend some time in the village. I could take him to my workplace. It was not matter.
But since my son wanted to go I took him there. My father said him, that next time he should not have slept there. (It was only two days!) And my son is a really good boy, well behaved, and gentle.
My father is a terrible and selfish person. I have never met anybody in my life who is so rude, and selfish. When I was a little girl I tried to calculate how long would he live. My sister and brother did the same. It may sound incredible, but our childhood was like this.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
29 Oct 07
i am sorry to hear that, i though grandparents usally happy to see their grandson. i dunno what to tell you, i want to say again i am sorry hopefully things can work out for you later on.
@DADCARES (64)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Hi there, I fell your pain. We have 11 grands and are raising 6 believe your son is better off not going where he's not wanted. I understand you wanting the best for, caring parents can't help that, I do hope you'll find something for him to do when he's not at work with you. maybe you could find someone to take hi out a day or 2 while on holiday. I wish I there to help. God bless
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
1 Nov 07
Yes, of course I would not persuade them to welcome my son.
And thank s for your kind words.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
27 Oct 07
At first let me tell you hi Hungary.I am really glad to meet you here , becuase I am from Slovakia, so hi my neigbhour.
To your discussion I am really sory you son had a such a holiday and his grandparetns don't want him over there.I am sure it would be so much fun for him, but try at least to find something other for him to do.Maybe he doesn't have a great grandparents, but I am sure he has the greatest mum on the world.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
27 Oct 07
Hi my neigbour! I thought because of your name that you must be from somewhere here, but then I saw you are from US. And thank you for your kind words.
@miaocecilia (80)
• China
26 Oct 07
i'm so sorry to hear that!did you talk to your parents?why don't they want to spend more times with their grandchild? your kid must be disappointed,schoolholiday is the best time for kids to play.you can try your best,such as take him to the pleasure ground or take a short trip at the weekend!
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
26 Oct 07
It may sound incredible, but they have more grandchildren, and they are not interersted in their life at all.
@miaocecilia (80)
• China
26 Oct 07
To spend time with kids is such a wonderful thing! i believe no matter how many grandchildren that your parents have,they should love to stay with them. it's so sad to know that they miss these opportunities. your parents won't have chance to stay with their grandchildren when they all grow up,coz they may not want to spend time with their grandparents.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
26 Oct 07
That is sad Dolcerina, I cant believe it because granddies every where like their grand children and always even try to spoil them with too much love. I find the behaviour of your parents very strange-perhaps you need to find out the reason for their actions, they may be having strong reasons for not allowing your son to have a holiday with them, sometimes the reasons are for your own son's good-check it out with them!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
11 Feb 08
Hi,
May you could invite your grandparents to your home and so as to have them company with your son.
Any how as long as I do not know about their attitude towards you son I could only feel sorry for that. Still there are also other means which can give more comfortable to your son but grandparents love is got only from grandparents.
