marriage

haha.. yes i know it is a big deal & i'm not looking to get married any time in the immediate future. i am by no means saying that i am completely ready to get married right now. i still have some growing up to do, college to finish, and a life to get started. i would wait til whenever it was right for both of us to make that step, because it is a big one. we have only been dating for about a year and a half, but our relationship is pretty serious. our relationship is currently long distance because of college, but won't be for much longer because i am transfering closer to home and will only be a couple hours away from him. the only thing i was worried about was that i'd date him for so long and then he'd end up deciding when he's about 30 that he never wants to get married and then i would have wasted 10 years of my life with someone that wouldnt end up in my future. trust me, i know i am not the only one with growing up to do either, he has maturing to do also. i would LIKE to get married around 25 after college and whatever.. but we'll see.

Oh, I so have to disagree with that Dolcerina. I love being married. I think it gives us a stablity that may not be there otherwise. Why do you feel marriage is a lie?

Because I have never seen honest marriage yet. The family and the marriage is not the same. My experience, that those who live together without a document are much more honest, and true, and happier. And they divorce less times, because they are perfectly free. DO you feel difference between saying: "My husband" and "my boyfriend" All the men feels the weight of the difference, when they say my wife, and when they are introduced, as a husband. Living without the document and vow is similar: you are in a house with big windows, the door is open. But you stay, because you like to live there with your partner. The sun is shining through the window. YOu see the world, when you look out of the wondow. Living in a marriage: you are in a house the curtains are drew in, the door is locked. You love your partner, and enjoy being with him, but you are locked into the house. After a while usually you get to be bored and you try to draw the curtains, because you need some light, and you wonder what is outside. But your partner do not like that you do this. And you say that you are happy, because your life is perfect in that house. I could continue this allegory, but if somebody sware and says that she is happy like above, I may not say that you are not happy. Because that is your life.

I have to disagree with this. I, for example, always knew that I wanted to be a young mother. If I had not married until I was 30 or 35 that dream would not have happened. There were many reasons for this, and I can look back and say I am REALLY glad that I had my first child at age 26. If your dream is to be married, having children, and settling down I honestly don't think someone would be happy waiting for years and years for someone. Respectfully, blueunicorn