Ornery People?

Well I think it's really cool that you would put so much care and thoughtfulness into how to handle people who obviously are not very aware of the way the universe works. I say: screw 'em.

I have leared a long time ago to either inore them or turn the other check. They are not worth worring over or stressing over. I use to get depressed over the way people use to treat me. Now I am at the poinT I could care less what others think of me.

At least you try to be nice to them. I on the other hand will say something nasty back. I used to work for both Dress Barn and T.J. Maxx. One day at T.J. Maxx I had this guy that was waiting on line, he was like the 5th person on the line and I was at the register hanging up some clothes at the customer service desk. Well, he starts complaining that I should not be hanging up clothes that I should be ringing people up. I said to him that if he didn't shut up I was going to walk away from the register. He didn't shut up and I walked away and I went home. Yes, I literally walked away and left work because the guy wouldn't stop b**ching. Didn't get fired believe it or not. I did get a lecture from my boss though. I am not a good customer service person. I hate working with customers as you could tell lol. It's just that I don't like when customers think they could say what they want to you. Well I won't let them. I wouln't suggest being nasty to them. That is just how I handle things. I just wanted to share my story.

My boss is mean and ornery and those are his good qualities. When I deal with him, I am nice and courteous but deal only with the facts. He knows I do my work, and I do it well, so he can't complain but when it comes evaluation he will make things up. He has made up lies about things I have said. Now when I converse with him, I make sure someone else is there too.

The best thing that you can do is first study their attitude. Different people have different way of living and accepting approaches, esp those who are in the miserable situation. Your effective approach to one may not be effective with the other. So you must observe him if you really want to deal with him. Dont make him feel that you are concern about about his miseries, he may not like it.

I seem to be pretty good at dealing with mean people. I am the type of person that just takes what they say as a grain of salt. I suggest that you just agree with what they say and when the complain just go along with it. That's what I do and I they never bother me. Just don't let them get to you.

The only way to deal with this kind of person is to be true to yourself. You cannot change anyone, but you can remain steadfast in your determination to live at peace with yourself and others. You may not be able to avoid them, but you have to remain steady inside. That is not become one of them by engaging in their negativities. Try sending thoughts of love and harmony toward them and always think good things about others, as hard as it may be. You always have the choice to live as you want and not let other's grumpiness and moodiness upset your peace.

That's a tough one. I try to be nice to them and if they are still mean then I cut the conversation short and move on. It's hard to be nice to someone who always has grudge against anything and everything. I'm not sure if I would confront them on their meanness as it might just make matters worse - Smile, nod, smile and then bye I've got to go LOL

The best thing you can learn in dealing with people like this, is to not take it personally. Their comments are motivated by their own personal issues about themselves. They are not because of you. You just happen to be one of the people in their line of fire when they start spewing their BS. That's my take on it. Here's a book you can read that might give you some helpful advice as well...High-Maintenance Relationships by Les Parrott III, Ph.D. Good luck.

The director and management at the preschool I'm working at are mean people. They are tempermental and moody, so you never know what mood they will come in with. It makes for a hard day. I don't know how to deal with people like that very well anyway. I just do what I'm supposed to and mind my business. If they have a problem with something I'm doing, then they can come to me, but they better be respectful about it or I will give the attitude right back. Ha ha.

The best way to deal with mean spirited people IS to be nice to them. They expect the meanness to be returned. If you don't return the meanness they don't know how to function. It's hilarious. I mean, that's why they get so upset with you. They want people to be mean to them and they just don't know how to react when you aren't mean. So just be nice and be yourself.

Hi Rozie37! I have met people who are very mean and what makes it worse is they are nice to you at first and then little by little they show their true colors. I try to be nice and kind to them just like you but they just go on with their mean attitude. What I do is just avoid them because whatever I say to them they always think they are right and they always get more upset. So, it is better just to avoid them for they are vexation to our own spirit. Just my thoughts my dear friend. Take care and have a nice day.