Why women/men want to get married?

People get married for many reasons, but I think the main reason for people to get married is they feel a deep sense of love, committment and connection with another person and want to cement those feelings in their family, legality and personal religion. A lot of times, they're right and they are able to stay together, but there are many more times where they were mistaken. Something happens and one of them changes and they are no longer compatible, they can no longer love the other, or one hid their true self until after marriage and reveal themselves to be abusers, rapists, pedophiles or any number of other atrocious traits that are just plain unacceptable. In nost of these cases, you really should get a divorce, ESPECIALLY if you have children. Those environments are completely unacceptable for raising children in. It doesn't matter if you "think" the children aren't aware of the problems or that it doesn't concern them, children always know and they will almost always be warped, scarred or traumatized by them. The "mother and father" environment is NOT better than a single parent environment when there is discord between the parents. My father was extremely abusive towards my mother, and she constantly told herself she would "help him change". People like that don't change. When she had kids, she not only thought that he was only abusing her and not the children, but she also believed in the "stay for the kids", which only lead to her children developing serious psychological problems that have left one extremely warped and atrocious and the other scarred, traumatized and socially inept.

People get married as they love each other and want to spend their lives with just that one person. I don't believe in divorce, but I think that certain actions require it. I believe any man or woman who is in an abusive relationship should get out and divorce. I also believe that if you get into a relationship and the person is totally uncompatible then you should get out. You have to be a couple and get along and have fun together or you can not be happy. Noone shoudl go through life being absolutely miserable to stay in a relationship.

I think that people when they reach a certain age they need to start a family and have a "normal" life like anyone else. That's the big issue.

Marriage is not assurance that you will have a good life with your spouse, or that you will have a perfect relationship. Most relationship failed because only one of them is concern with the marriage. I dont know anyone who doesn't want to be happy. We all want to be happy, we all want a family. Marriage should not be a cage that will trap us. Marriage should be the foundation of love, family, respect and trust. We have to amke the best to make things worka nd be happy. If still nothing happens... then that would be the time to decide. One must not loose his self respect and self worth...

U r right. Both men and women in order to live a happy life should lead their marital life gracefully and try to create an understanding among both sides. I think one marriage is enough but if a man is able to keep himself in ethican and religious bounds then more marriages ar ok too. thanx

To some digree,I can't agree with your opinion about marrage!I don't think that we should stick with one marriage life till we die.It depends.If we own a happy marriage,we should never destroy it or give it up.But if not,we should end it as quickly as possible.Inside a bad marriage,not only you ,but also your wife is painful.

Marriage is an old-fashioned custom. People get married, because they think without it they miss something. After marriage they realize, that the goldring is gold cuffs. And it is a big lie.

I was married and would have been married still but there were issues that needed to be addressed.......like he was an abuser! I didn't want the kids or myself to get hurt. His temper was so bad that he was dangerous. I think you only have one life to live and that you should do what makes you happy...Once your life is over....or soon to be over you might have regrets..Being happy......is the reason we were given life...to become the best we can be.

Marriage calls of lots of adjustment and respecting the wishes of your partner and you have to work to make it work, if the young people think it is all fun then they are disappointed and go for divorce.

Because they think they are compatible... Thats why they get married, but then on.... if they're married, they cannot accept ones' negative traits. taking a vow means accepting a person with your whole heart and even his/her ugly traits, because you know that you are different persons.