My Mother-In-Law Drives Me Crazy!

You are not alone!! My mother in law is the same way.. One minute she is calling me her daughter, and treating me good.. Then she embarresses the crap out of me by saying her son was the best thing that happened to me and I used to be so bad without him and he saved me in life.. I am like UGHHH please, and my husband totally defends her which pisses me off even more!! i am always smiling and nice to her and it is really getting old!! I feel the same way too i know that is her son (and worse of all her only child) and i know i will never be good enough for her, but hey after 3 years of marriage and a grandchild you would think she would treat me with some respect.. So i totally feel you on this one!! I guess mother in laws are similar to step parents LOL meant to be b****es!! HAHA Thanks or letting me get this off of my chest, and I know I am not alone now!!

I havent met my mother in law yet, but i could tell you girl youre not alone. A lot of women in our society have the same problems like you do. You can never please everyone...even youre doing well and your hubby is very well taken care of then theres no wories..After all you married the guy not the mother. Cheer up its just your Mother in law.Smile

My ex-mother in law kind of did the same thing. They would feign interest and concern in my life and as soon as I left or hung up the phone I could just feel the phone lines lighting up or they would tell my husband things that were loosely based on the truth but peppered with their own colorful additions. So many fights ensued from that. So, I would vascillate between being able to tolerate them to wanting to choke them on site. Yeah I can identify with you.

I guess that's a universal problem...mom-in-laws who are a pain in the *ss...I guess you just have to deal with her diplomatically, but should be checked if she goes out of bounds...you know, they could be mean and manipulative, especially if she thinks her son is too good for you. Anyway, he married you and there's nothing she can do about it. The best weapon is silence...just simply ignore her everytime she makes your life miserable...she may be miserable herself, or also going through some crisis, hence the show of a dual character...just focus taking care of your own family...I guess she has not yet fully gotten over her son, who incidentally is now your husband. Pray for her, she's in her twilight years now...

OMG Trust me your not alone ! My mother in law drives me insane ! Before me and her son got married she treated me like crap. She even got restraining orders against me and her 2 sons, she tried saying that I turned both boys against her. SHES CRAZY But then she found out I was pregnant and she dropped the restraining orders and tried being all nice, , , then when we got married she started telling everyone she loved me like a daughter and so on but every chance she gets she has to treat me like I don't know how to take care of my family ohh and she's nosy she thinks she needs to know how much we make and what we spend our money on and thinks my son should be with her more NOOO She drives me nuts I hate being around her half the time if she could mind her own business maybe it would be a little different I don't know

Well, I am not married yet, however my soon to be mother-in-law is the best. She is always friendly with me and never talks bad to me or about me. I just hope this never changes. She is such a great lady and I love her dearly.

I guess I am lucky! My MIL and I don't always see eye to eye on things, but, for the most part, we get along very well. She loves me and I love her. She can be a bit crazy sometimes, and she's a little too conservative for my taste, but that's just the generation gap for you. Overall, we get along very well. In fact, we're moving two doors down from them in December and they are currently purchasing all of the paint for us to repaint the house! They treat me like one of the family and have since day one of my husband and I's relationship.

You're not alone. Some days are good family days and other days she'll saying something really mean. I don't understand where it comes from. Like you said, I'll never be good enough I guess. Oh well.

Well I have a similar issue but it is not with a mother in law. It is with my brother n law's girlfriend. One minute she is nice to me and then the next she cannot stand me. I have never liked her to be honest, but come on. It does not make any sense to me.

No u are not alone! I've grown up seeing my mom being nagged all the while by her mom-in-law ,my grandma :-). My mom is a pretty sensitive creature and she always runs into tears in such occassions. I get really angry when my mom cries and I get really mad on my grandma. The next day though, I see the two of them laughing and havimg a good time with each other. I ask my mom about it, and she winks and says that shes used to my grandma's tantrums. She says her day feels incomplete without grandma!! Aah... I guess thats the beauty of life!

Oh you are not the only one. There are people out there who have very good relationships with their mother-in-laws. They are very fortunate. Both my mother-in-law relationships(i have been married twice) were unfortuantely disasterous. My first in law was angered at me making her a grandmother and distracting her son from the carrer path she chose for him. We didn't have anything in common and had no way to relate to each other. In the end i blamed her for the disolvement of our marriage. My second mother in law sadly don't speak. We have many things in common and are probably too much a like, which probably makes a husband a little uncomfortable. No matter how you get a long with her don't let it affect your relationship with your husband.

I know your things,this is very rifeness.It is not very important in your life.Don not angry and sad . Wish you happy every day!

You are not alone. When I first married my husband she was nice and still is but for 11 years its been the same. If we are talking about something she wants to know what its about. I stay at home with the children and when we are low on cash she wants to know what I spend HIS money on. I guess she feels the need to compete. I recently lost my mother so I try to understand her more and I dont let what she says hurt me.

My mother in law is the same way. I find myself wondering if she really even likes me at all. For the most part, I really don't care if she does or not but I would appreciate honesty. I don't dislike her completely but she is definitely not my most favorite person in the world. I don't find her relationship with me very important. I would just really like for her to be a better grandmother to my kids and stop revolving everything around her husband. We stay in the same apartment complex and they never see her or even talk to her on the phone.

I am sorry with all that you are going through right now. Thats what I fear about getting married, I fear my future in laws, I know they are entirely different family from what I have and IM very sure that I may not always be what I expected me to be and its really hard to live the expectations of other people. I know you are not alone, I have heard several stories about in laws and they are not really that good stories. Most of what I knoe live separately or live away from in laws coz its a way to somehow spell out the differences and the not so good relationship. I guess its matter of respect that we can minimize misunderstadings and its a matter of also meeting halfway.

hahah ~ first of all its normal ! well.. enwei before i join my live-in partner here in their house.. i think a lot of times how can i deal with his parents.. however... he always telling that "ITS OK DONT WORRY"... but when i get here... worst comes to worst.... im not feelin' comfortable... i hate to be here.. a lot of rumors between me and my parents live in partner.. my parents told me that its normal so do my stuffs here... all things that i should do .. i did.. i pamper them... all and all... and now... were very close as in.. haha ~ so do your best girl to get close with your mom in law... its normal that they dont like you at first.. try to understand them also... =D