Regrets?

hi brookehaun! There is no such thing as a life without any regrets.We are humanbeings and are likely to make mistakes or errors in life. These experiences in one way or the other makes us stronger. However, regrets can become either burdens that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or motivation to move forward.I too have a few regrets in life like not studying well when I was in college, not utilizing my time and money properly and not having treated my mother well when she was well. But my mistakes sure have made me a better person now.

I'm sorry about the post partaum depression. But you don't have to regret it because it was not something you had on purpose. You are a mom now and concerned about your son. He's not going to remember what happened in his first year. He's going to remember all the good times and fun he had with you as he grows up. All of us have regrets about the way we bring up our kids (even the perfect parents). There's always things that could have been avoided or done better. But the bottom line is that a couple of slip-ups are okay and human. It's not like you are intentionally hurting your child. You are a great mom and doing the best you can for your child and that should give you satisfaction.

Same here. Though I did not push away my son, I too suffered from severe baby blues and I provide neither any justification nor any regrets for it. Society has brainwashed people into glorifying motherhood so much, that most of us never take into account what goes through the new mother’s mental set-up and few mothers actually speak up. Its another taboo and as a mother, you are expected to enjoy your new-found exalted statues, no matter even if you cant go for something as mundane as a hair-cut! Even the most liberated male and caring, doting father knows that the moment he is not liking it anymore, he has the mother on whom he can dump the baby and go to the pub or anywhere else, but the same is never true for women. Our lives are upturned overnight and after the initial feeling of actually seeing the life emerge from your womb, you suddenly realize that you are no longer for yourself anymore, not even for a fleeting second. So cheer up, lot of us feel this way but few speak up. Even I try to remember those days when he was just a toddler but then its OK. I know my son is my life-force and that’s enough for me. The fact that many times I have not liked being a mother is true but does not hold any significance for me. Its just a part of my existence, my awareness.

I have 4 children - ages 7, 5, 3 1/2, and 15 mos - and every evening, I usually have something I regret doing, or not doing, earlier in the day. Sometimes it is not cuddling enough with them, playing with them, feeding them more nutritious foods..and sometimes there are more "difficult" things - like the punishment I gave them for something they done wrong. I, too, had post partum depression after all 4 births - I've been on medication since after the second oldest - I suffered with it after the first birth - he was 6 weeks premature and spent time in the NICU - I regretted so many things after that period of time. I know I can't go back and change time, but I sure would if I could!

Im not a parent but I dont have regrets I like to take things and learn from them instead of hold them as regrets. You learn from it and make it make you stronger through your life.

Thank you for so many stories about the parent.Actually , I think you are all the good parents.Though I'm still a girl , I will be a mother one day.As a child , in fact,what we need is not your practices.Sometimes,just your thoughts about caring us can make us satisfaction.Because we know you love us ,and you are always very busy and have some other infrustrated things.

I'm sorry to hear about the post partum depression. I have heard a lot about it but never could imagine what its actually like to go through. I, fortunately, don't have any regrets. Maybe I regret buying her things we didnt need because she wanted them for a period because now she wants different things all the time and expects em, we're finally starting to get her out of that stage!

Hmm...my sons are 21 and 17 and I have regrets. I did the best I could and they are wonderful kids but I feel like I smothered them a bit and was too overprotective. I still am. Although I am close to my sons and they always share things with me first and count on me to help them deal with whatever they are going through, I wonder if I spent enough quality time with them. I wonder if I embarrassed them when I was around their friends. I wonder if I could have been a better role model by being more traditional. I think my biggest regret is not sitting down to dinner at the table every night like I see on TV. We all just grab what we want or eat when we want and I think we, as a family, missed out. I can't change that now. My older son moved out (sorta) with a friend and is fixing up his new apartment. My younger one is here and I suppose I could do it for my husband and him. I just think it's important to have family time and I sort of lost it over the years. As for you, I am sure you are a great Mom and your son adores you!