If you spank your children, how do you teach them it's not OK to hit people?

To begin with kids are smarter than we give them credit for. I spanked my 4 kids. But it was as a last resort. Spanking is not hitting. When they were babies and I would be holding them they would pat me on the face. I held their hads and told them no no with a ferm voice. But when I spanked them they know that it was because they had done something wrong and what they had done. They didn't get spanked every day or every other day. Maybe that is why they didn't hit. They were also not allowed to hit. When they were little they were told no and I held their hands while telling them no.

The biggest emphasis when disciplining with corporate punishment is to not do it out of anger. Additionally, the child should only be spanked on the rear. The child is explained to what they did wrong and why they are being spanked. If you just slap a kid across the face because they are mouthy or pop them with no explanation you are punishing out of anger. If you explain the bad behavior, offer a good behavior to replace it then you are sending the message that actions have consequences. It is punishment and spanking instead of just striking or hitting someone which they cannot do as adults. Used effectively and not in anger, you're not sending the message that hitting is acceptable. You're sending a strong message that actions will result in something good or bad happening.

I am a mom and I spank my son when it is important he's little so he'll get a smack on the hand or a pat on his butt-which he can barely feel because of his diaper- but anywho, there is a difference between hitting your kid and spanking them. They know that when they get spanked its because you've told them NO more then once and they didn't listen when doin something that they weren't supposed to be doing. Hitting them is just hitting them for no reason. Teach your kids the difference between hitting and spanking if they don't know that already. I read an article in a magazine where it said is around the toddler age and they are hitting you when they do it tell them,"No don't hit mommy/daddy/me you do it again and your going to be put down and when they do it again put them down and let them know that what they did was wrong.

I am not spanking my children. Instead of spanking my children I will teach them a good behavior and I believe theres a better way to discipline a children rather than spanking it. Every children have a unique behavior and a unique attitude toward other. Spanking is not the answer, instead we need to show them the beauty of love and respect, so that she or he know what is a good sign of a good behavior. Beside that we need to show them what we are, if we show that we have a bad attitude, that is an example for them. Having a good parent is having a good children. We are the model of our children and we must show to them.

I am against spanking. You've made a point that I don't understand myself, what could a child possibly learn from getting hit? Children need guidance and reassurance as they grow into respectful individuals. When it comes to punishment, I think it should all depend on a couple of things such as the age of the child and what the child did wrong. My little girl is 18 months old and we just now started teaching her what's right and wrong. Right now, we've been redirecting her when she's doing something she's not supposed to be doing. For example, if she throws a toy.. we take the toy from her and she doesn't get it back for awhile. We'll show her another toy and have her play with it.