Is it possible to be too religious?

United States
October 28, 2007 9:24am CST
I came across an interesting debate yesterday, and I wanted to share it here. Is it possible to be too religious? I actually wrote my opinion on a Helium article yesterday. So I don't have to re-type it, here is the link to the article if you would like to read my thoughts: http://www.helium.com/tm/669245/believe-possible-religious-being So, what do you think? Is it possible to be too religious?
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I have known people who are way to into the church not the God they talk about but the church they go to and they are really far into looking good for the other people in the church it was like a game of who could act the best. they claimed to be doing it for God but to me they where doing it for other people in the church. I left the church a long time ago and I have a way better love and understanding for God now then I ever did going to church. I found that by going to church I had everyone judging me by what length my skirt was, how much make up I wore, if I wore make up I was called names behind my back, if I missed a sunday in church I was surely sinning so people from the church would call me and ask if I was ok and to make sure I sent my money in for tithing. It was like a soap opera after while there was so much gossip in church it would put any "wordly" gossiper to shame. I am muchhappier being gone from the church I see things alot differantly and I don't judge anyone like I used to, satan is not the center of my fear in fact I hardly have any fear now. I enjoy talking and getting to know more people of every walk of life then I did when going to church. I see God in a much better light now. I think I may have gotten off course here but I haven't had my coffee yet. LOL. Take care -Amber
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• United States
28 Oct 07
Amber, We have shared much of the same experiences. Have you been following me around church? Just kidding. I, too, feel so much less fear now that I am not going to church. I actually feel free to feel again, if that makes sense. I can sit and listen to myself and really see what I think- not having to be told what to think by a group of people in the church. The decision to leave the church was not an easy one for me (as I'm sure it wasn't for you). If you would like to read about that experience, here is a link to a different article I wrote: http://www.helium.com/tm/593974/about-decided-leave-religion Sorry for all the links. I just think those articles share my feelings better than trying to say it all again here. Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts!
• United States
28 Oct 07
I find it funny that you talk about lightening bolts with your name on them. I, too, was always worried at first that something bad was going to happen to me if I wasn't in church on a Sunday morning. And in the afternoon if I saw someone from church I would hide so they couldn't ask me where I had been that morning. It is so much nicer to be free! One bad thing about leaving the church, though, was that I thought I had friends there. As soon as I stopped going they stopped inviting me to things.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I know it's sad when you lose people who you thought cared about you, I made better friends out here than I ever did in church. Billy Joel sings a song I can't remember the name of it but it has a sentence in it that says sinners are alot more fun than the saints...LOL. It's true lol. -Amber
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I agree with you some people take their religon way too much and when they prout the scriptures all the time it drives me crazy. Had a land lady once tha ll she did was sout the scriptures but wasnt living up to them . When I find these kind of people I get away from them as fast as I can. She even wanted my kids to get baptisted into her church when they had never gone to it. Now that is way out of line!
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I would have to too. jusat no way to argue with the scriptures.
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• United States
29 Oct 07
When my mother-in-law is angry she quotes the bible, and that is the only words she will say. It is insane trying to have an arguement with her that way, so I wind up just walking away.
• United States
29 Oct 07
I actually know the bible fairly well and could argue back with scriptures of my own, but I don't see a point in it. Every denomination inteprets those scriptures differently, anyway, so one could find something in the bible to back up whatever they want to say. It becomes very twisted at that point.
@JG1950 (27)
• India
30 Oct 07
What do you mean by being religious? Is it observing religious rituals or reading religious texts? Is it going to church regularly? All religions are a route to realise the Lord not to just please HIM. Realising HIM alone is religious.Any process that does not lead us to this Goal is mere exercise. It cannot take you any where.
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• United States
31 Oct 07
I would define the word religious as following a certain faith or denomination. Perhaps for some that would mean going to church regularly. For some it may mean following certain rituals. That is what my question was, though, is finding out what other people thought.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I think people become to religious when they lose sight of what their religion is supposed to be about. I can only speak from my experience within the Christian church but I have seen many different examples of it.... The man who refuses to use birth control despite his wife's wishes to only have one or two children...they now have 5 children in a two bedroom house and she suffers from post partum depression more seriously after each birth. He also believes that prayer will "cure" her so she does not recieve any medication or counseling to help her through it. ...the ones who judge others who are struggling or have a different idea (most likely a better idea) of what church means. ...the ones who think weekly attendance to church (a man made building) actually proves a strong faith rather than worshipping God in your own way everyday of the week. I'm sure I could go on and on. I quit going when I realized my attendance had more social meaning than religious meaning. If I wasn't there I was judged, the phone calls and drop in visits started. People would think I was "slipping" in my faith. No one seemed to care that I felt very strongly that God DIDN'T want me going every week just for appearance sake. I could say so much about this topic but it is late and s/o needs the computer. Thanks for starting this discussion!
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• United States
29 Oct 07
You have some great examples, foxyfire! I feel sorry for the woman in your post. I don't know about you, but in the churches I was going to we were still being taught that the man is the head of the household, and to be a good Christian wife we would follow his lead. I can see how a woman would get trapped in a situation like the one you describe.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
29 Oct 07
That's exactly the situation. She has even expressed her unhappiness in the marriage to me in the past but always with the attitde "but I'm a Christian woman so I know this must be what God wants for me"! The funny or sad part depending on how you look at it is this particular couple weren't very religious at all until they got married. They openly admit that they were just friends with benefits until she got pregnant. They only got married to "make it right".
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• United States
29 Oct 07
I always wonder how people know what god wants for them. In the years that I went to church I was just as confused about decisions I made as when I wasn't praying. I was just more confident in my decisions once they were made because I had the fall back of "God will take care of it". To be honest some of my worse mistakes were made when I thought I had that cushion.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
31 Oct 07
Hi blueunicorn, I don't like the word religious, in fact it scares me. I would never want to be considered religious. I consider myself to a spiritual person. I don't really know what too religious might be, maybe a good example would be the pharisee in the Biblical story found in Luke.18: 10-12. Blessings.
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• United States
31 Oct 07
You know......... I never thought about it that way, but I think you are on to something! To me, a religious person is very much like the pharasee. I don't have a problem at all with people who love God. It's just all the rules and outward showings that bother me. Good thoughts!
@megamerx (29)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
yes it is. and it can be so addictive, like any game you've ever played. you will lose friends, and relatives, and might even kill people for your religion.
• United States
31 Oct 07
You have a good point about losing friends and relatives. I know when I was going to church I was heading towards being too religious. I definately started turning away friends and relatives. There is such a big difference between being religious and having faith!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
29 Oct 07
Yes, there are over-religious people out there and they are the kind we call fundamentalists. they repeat their relgious holy books very strictly and they tend to be inclined to forced conversion. Fundamentalist ae very dangerous people to society!
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• United States
29 Oct 07
So that brings up a good question. Can there be an antheist fundamentalist?
@men82in (1268)
• India
30 Oct 07
Religious rites and rituals must be upto certain limits and time frame. If that exceeds the limits or overdosing it will be oing towards cheating as present global scenario. In southindia most much accustomed religious leaders are in hit list by indian police due to their cheating and other crime levels. Beware of much religious leaders.
@beckish (641)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I think it is possible to take anything to the extreme, including relgion. Your article is well-written and thought-provoking; nice job. :-)
• United States
28 Oct 07
That is true that anything can be taken to an extreme. Thanks for the comments on the article!
@abby026 (42)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I don't think people can be too religous. I think it is how dedicated someone is to their faith and how they live it in their daily lives. Some people just go to church and go through the motions, but do not apply the faith or beliefs in their daily actions. People that do apply it, are seen as too religous to others.
• United States
29 Oct 07
I have to disagree with you. Honestly, if one is truely applying a religion I don't think other people would even know. I think religion itself is the outward show and a love of whatever god they are following is an inside feeling.