WHen it comes to arguments.. are you good at them?

I'm just the same as you, I am not good at it. I don't really think that arguing puts us in a "win-win" situation, as many times it ends up into misunderstanding. I'd rather go for healthy conversation, where both parties are open to listen with each other's opinions. I sometimes avoid opening sensitive topics, especially when I'm with my loved ones. I'd rather keep my thoughts to myself and maybe talk about it on a proper place and at the right time, I find it better to maintain a healthy relationship!;)

I'm not good at argueing either. I was verbally abused as a child by my father and learned not to make waves. As an adult it took a lot of therapy to be able to disagree with anyone. I ate a lot of Rolaids in my younger days and it's remarkable I never developed a stomach ulcer. Now I bite my tongue still but eventually say what I am feeling or thinking. I can be totally honest with my brothers but not with mom or sister as they always get defensive and want to argue more. Hubby and I now argue silently as he has learned I will just clam up when it comes to vocals. I was a bit too vocal with my oldest child and had to learn to argue without being mean or loud. She does not do well with loud arguing either. It's been a source of problems for her marriage but she is doing ok and he is learning. I find now when a disagreement is serious to talk it over with a nuetral person first and find a kind way of bringing up the conversation works best. Unless I am being attacked verbally, then I either react and explode or I just say "forget it" and walk away.

well i have to say i am just too good at that a bit too vigorous and aggressive when it comes to arguments at times even it has put me in troubles

I am not very assertive and end up always getting bullied lol, so I prefer to shy away from arguments. I am like you, a friendly debate really livens me up and I am good at those but any other argument makes me either very vulnerable or tearful or even stupid. I hate arguments and try my best never to engage in them if I cna possibly avoid it.

Yes, i am very good at arguing. I have lost arguments very infrequently over the years. My mother is my most formidable adversary though. She is one of the few people that can win an argument with me.

In most cases I do win arguments. But i hate arguing. I tend to avoid it at all cost. Sometimes it is better to agree to disagree rather then get into an argument that neither is going ot rememebr in a week. I always try to keep arguments short and to the point.

I'm pretty good, I win most of them...I don't hold a candle to my best friend who NEVER loses them..but oh well lol. I don't like arguments either. Most of the stupid ones I've ever had end in violence. I mean I don't mind violence, if anything I love a good fight to get the blood and adrenaline going...but obviously violence isn't always fun lol. Especially if said argue-ee hated your guts to begin with lol. Anyway, I agree arguments are better when the person you're arguing with is logical and reasonable. But unfortunately not that many people are logical and reasonable. It's why -I- don't start arguments. I simply finish them, stupidity that some people can display is toxic to me. Like poison got injected into my veins *shrugs* It makes me afraid I'll end of like that someday lol. I mean it's a scary thought.

i usually win. I love arguments because it sharpens my mind and hone my diplomatic skills. conflict is inevitable in the world thatz why to argue is equally important.

I don't concentrate on winning or losing, but I usually stand by the right. I know people have many times argued against proving the wrong as right. But, I do my best to argue as long as I am support something moral and just, but even if I'm losing, I would stand by it. And if I see it's not making an impact on the minds, then I just leave the place.

Arguments not good, how about discussion.

Hi arkaf61.We hardly ever argue,its more of a teasing thing.I usely alwasy win though,my bofriend never wants to admit he wrong sometimes,haha.I mostly ignore a argue maker,it makes them more mad if you do not answer and start in also.Hehehe Peanutjar:)

I love a good argument! Especially with my hubby. I think if we didn't argue every now and again, I'd get bored! I always seem to lose though and end up sobbing! No matter how silly it starts out! I lose track of what I'm rowing about and past arguments come up and sometimes it just gets silly nd we are rowing for the sake of it! I don't think I've ever won an argument in my life! I'm hopeless, perhaps there are classes out there to help people row more productively! Lol!

i also felt the same way like you do, like when the arguments is on going and i just have few things to say but when im alone and just sitting i was like "i should say this and that" and then i just regret it.

ya people say i'm good at it,wel then no wonder,i'm an advocate brat so cant help it,its in my genes.../

Oh I you pushed a sensitive button there!! I am not good at arguments atall. Most of the times i keep silence and grope for right words at the right time. Obviously, I am a bad talker and mostly listen to others. However, if you ask me to write I will reason with you like an expert and you will be amazed to find someone so different in person and in writing!!

I don't like argument at all if possible. But sometimes we really can't avoid it. Sometimes I just go away if also possible. I like a simple and peaceful relationship with anybody. I'm not really fond of having arguments with anybody.

I have never been very good with arguments, either trying to act as peacemaker or trying to avoid conflict where possible. I usually find that if I am caught up in an argument I can never think of anything to say other than *I don't want to argue*

Am very good at arguing...And for no reason i would ever surrender up my argument that quickly..It really bothers me a lot.If i loose any argument i keep thinking over it as to why i lost it what i should have said etc etc.....I usually win most of them so loosing few really matters a lot to me...may sound bit funny but i can t give up that easily ...

When I am in an argument I try to make my side seem more technical. The more technical it becomes the less the other party will understand it and eventually they will probably think your right (only because they are confused)

I'm not at it.Sometimes if I want to argue with somebody,he must be my husband.I don't like to argue with anynoe if they really don't treat me fairly.But somebody of my roommates like to argue with anybody because they feel unfair things around them or when they really like somebody.People are different from people,someone like,somebody don't like.Most people may not really like to argue with anyone,like me.Yes??More arguments bother me too.To tell you a secret,I never win in the arguments.Thanks!