unwanted pregnancy

Philippines
October 29, 2007 2:52am CST
have you ever had an unwanted pregnancy? i'm just curious. how did you handle it? did you resort to abortion pills or were you brave enough to continue on with the pregnancy? i haven't been in that situation but it sounds really complicated. there are a lot of things to consider that may seem to cloud a person's thought being in that situation. i myself is scared just thinking about it. what would do or have done?
5 responses
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I may have a pregnancy now. I'm going to have my test 4 days from now just to make sure because my boyfriend wants to be here when I find out for sure. And, I want him to be here as well. I have to admit, I'm not brave enough to go on with this. I am still in college with a full scholarship. I have no money and my parents are old and retired. So, I'm considering an abortion, even if its illegal where I'm from. I know, I'm terrible since I should be prepared for the consequences of my actions, but it hurts me more knowing that in my current situation, I cannot give a child the life I want to give him or her. That is why I've resolved to abstinence from now on. It's just not worth it all in the end. Well, that's my opinion anyway. I want a family in the future and I'm the type who wants to be really involved with my kids. They don't have to have all the material things in the world, but at the same time, I don't want them to just barely scrape through life. Okay, so I don't really know what I can offer them materially, but I know and I promise that I will love them, when I'm married and ready to have them. Perhaps, the pregnancy is not a sure thing yet, but what I do know is I am not ready to have kids. At least, not now.
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• Philippines
31 Oct 07
i know. it's a scary situation. good that your boyfriend will be there for you when you take the test. as least you know that he is by your side. if you're having it aborted just make sure that you go to a doctor that is credible and won't give you infections after the procedure. it seems like you are really giving this a lot of thought. i know you are going to make a good decision because of the things that you have mentioned. you know your options and the unerlyin g ciscumstance to it. good luck to you!
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• Philippines
1 Nov 07
hey! you might want to check this site out: http://ec.princeton.edu/worldwide/default.asp. it's about the morning after pills. she recommended some pill to induce period and i made a research on it. this site shows what pills are safe and are available in your country. good luck! i hope this helps.
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• Philippines
31 Oct 07
Thank you. I know I've thought about this well enough, but I'm still a bit scared of the whole ordeal. Your support means a lot to me. :)
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@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Yeah, my unwanted pregnancy is now 19 months old and no, he is not unwanted in the slightest. My husband and I never wanted children - we liked kids, we just never wanted any. And to make matters even better, I had been told all my life that I couldn't have kids.... Goes to show you that doctors can be wrong... but now I want more kids :)
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• United States
1 Nov 07
Not everyone would be happy to be forced to keep their unwanted pregnancies, though.
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• Philippines
1 Nov 07
wow i'm happy for you! :) kids can really change people's lives. :)nice family you have there. i'm sure you will be happier when you are ready to have another kid in the family. :) i wish you all the best. :)
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@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
1 Nov 07
And I am sure they would be ecstatic by getting an abortion? But you're right, and those people that would not be happy should take every precaution out there to not get pregnant.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I'm possibly facing that now. We have 3 kids already. We just had our son 3 months ago. The last week I've been really tired and felt slightly sick like I might throw up. I haven't taken a test yet. I'm afraid to I guess. We really can't afford another baby right now. We were mostly likly even done having kids. My husband is against abortion. I'm on the fence about it. If I am pregnant we will have the baby and love it as much as the other three.
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
it's good to know that you'll still be loving the baby as much as the other kids eventhough you're not really ready for it. i admire you for that. i'm sure you and your husband can come up with something to suffice for your family. good luck! :) maybe you should try having the test so you can plan better. :)
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@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
No, I don't have. If I have, I would not choose to abort it. Abortion is an absolutely wrong and it is a crime of murder. And absolutely I am not favor for this. And I think the fetus have life and like us she/he have a right to see this wonderful world.
• India
7 Nov 07
I could not understand the word "Unwanted Pregnancy". Pregnancy is gift the almighty given to us and getting pregnent is a natural process. Woman have to be proud that they are pregnent and that the child is going to call her mom. The word come in to effect only if a woman is unmarried. A woman who is married and wanted not to have child for any reason, there are somany ways to avoid pregnancy,including legally teriminating pregnancy. Why should any woman should indulge in unwanted practice and getting unwanted things and finally lead to unwanted stress and other unwanted complications. I think these are self made.
• United States
7 Nov 07
"Pregnancy is gift the almighty given to us and getting pregnent is a natural process. Woman have to be proud that they are pregnent and that the child is going to call her mom." You're VERY wrong. I could NEVER think that. I absolutely hate childrena dn I refuse to every gestate a pregnancy. I never want children. The very concept of pregnancy makes me sick to my stomach and the idea of being a "mom" makes my skin crawl. I could never EVER want that, I would never think being pregnant was a "gift" nor would I ever accept it. Why should I be proud of a bodily function? That's nothing to proud of. That's like being proud of breathing, or eating, or going to the bathroom. It's just a bodily function, it's not special nor a miracle, nor a gift, it's just nature.
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@eden32 (3973)
• United States
16 Nov 07
What's not to understand about the term "Unwanted pregnancy"? It's pretty self-explanatory, if a women becomes pregnant at a time she doesn't wish to be, for any reason, that's an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy. Being married or not married doesn't dictate if a woman wishes to be a parent.