Is it ok for a wife to just stay at home for the kids ?
By conrada1923
@conrada1923 (79)
Philippines
9 responses
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
For me thats alright.The wife can stay and look after the kids and she can serve her husband. Its not keeping your wife to a lot people and just hide her at home..give your wife a night out just the two of you with no kids around. In that way you two make the relationship stronger.
As well as for her career, she could be a career woman even she is staying at home build a small business at home or she can do some online jobs.
@conrada1923 (79)
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
That's a good one ayou82. But the problem is if she is not interested in having a small business at home. Or she is not also interested in doing online jobs. Suppose her interest was so focus in taking care of the children that when the children grew up her interst in doing old favorites has gone.?
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Well that time management should be applied then. She must balance between career and the kids. Me, i still follow my calling, in writing and my singing career, and the same time i give time to my kids whenever i get home i ask my partner to look after the kids then when i get back and i make sure im home on time, i do my responsibilities. Although, in a very young age, I give up partying when i was only 22, where i really choose to be at home stay with the kids and choose to be a full time mum.
For someone like me who never employs a babysitter i communicate with my hubby and initiate a one on one talk about my career and things that i want to do and dreams that i want to fulfill and its called give and take. DOnt deprive yourself to opportunities as it knocks, and dont choose between career and motherhood its how you manage the time.
@caver1 (1762)
• United States
5 Nov 07
You are correct in saying that it may be hard to find a good job after staying home for many years. I am in that situation right now. I have been looking for a job and have found nothing that I think I want to do. Soon I will begin applying for the jobs I don't really want to do, because I need to get a job.
Now that I have confirmed your thoughts about the finding a job, I need to say that staying home with my children was the best decission I ever made. I knew before I even had children that I would stay home with them. My children are now 16 and 13 years old and because of our expenses I really need to go back to work.
@ribbon1226 (192)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I strongly believe that any time that a Mom can stay home with her children, it is best. Of course, I mean when it is affordable to a family to do so. Her career can be focused on when they are older and if she needs to she could even pick up classes while they are in school to keep herself updated. Or start working part time when they are older and in school.
My daughter was abused when I was not her caretaker when she was little. That is why I am always happy to see when a good parent can stay home. Especially when the children are younger.
Not only that, having children is such a gift and if a parent can stay home and enjoy all their stepping stones, how great that would be for both parent and child.
@luckyteja (14)
•
31 Oct 07
Yeah, I agree and prefer to stay back at home for children. I have seen so many friends whose mother is an employee and how were they struggled and how badly they missed their parents.... In that case i am soo lucky as my mom is a housewife... i too prefer to be a housewife once i have kids....since i wont want to miss their frist words....first steps....and the chit chat they do.... i don't to miss those all things....
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
4 Nov 07
My answer to that is it depends. Because for someone like me who never trust anyone to look after my kids i dont want to go anywherelse. I will seek so many opportunities to earn while im home. Do some business that doesnt require too much exposure outside and SO then i can give time to my kids and see that they are alright.
@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Yes, I think it will affect her ability to get back into the working world; however, that is simply a sacrifice a woman makes, and one that she knows she is making, when she chooses to become a stay at home mom.
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
29 Oct 07
Hello, that was my dilemma for long time!!Now I am sure that i was decided good when i was staying at home with my young children!!I returned for job when my youngest daughter was 17 years old!My problem was in a fact that I was graduate for math and chemistry professor and I asked myself why was I studying if I will never work!!Regards Silvana
@moonbugster (10)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I believe that a woman being able to be home with her children is so very important. If there is anyway possible for a mom to stay home with her children, then it needs to be done. Sacrafices must be made for our children and giving up a career is just a small one in my opinion. Yes, it may be hard for mom to find a job once the kids are gone. Noone said she has to work after the kids are grown and gone though. If you have learned to make it on one income while raising kids, then keep that same income with the kids gone and use that time for your husband.
