What do you do if you have a "cold war" with an office mate?
By lezliechan
@lezliechan (71)
Philippines
October 29, 2007 4:27pm CST
I recently have some misunderstanding with a current officemate, and the hard fact is that, she is not only an officemate but she is also one of my team mate since we are divided into teams in our work place plus we are just 2 seats apart and we actually have to meet up one way or another since we have to walk around so much since we have to verify something to our Level 2 agent if things get out of hand during our calls.
I know it was my fault why it started but I already apologized and tried to talk to her but she doesn't say a word to me and just kept on avoiding me just as much as what I would likely to do to her. It's really pretty weird and awkward not having someone to talk to you as if you never existed. And I'm actually planning on apologizing again but it seems like nothing would happen. What do you think I should do?
Advice anyone? And di this kind of thing happened to you already?
3 responses
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
29 Oct 07
You apologized to her so it is up to her to forgive you or not.
The burden is off your shoulders. If she doesn't forgive you, thats her problem not yours.
It must have been something pretty bad for her not to talk to you.
She will have to speak to you sooner or later.
Good luck. I hope things get worked out between you two.
@lezliechan (71)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
thanks for the advice..:) actually is not that huge to nd like this..it was just a petty misunderstanding which she made a big deal out of it..
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Misunderstanding in the work place and with team mates is not good. This will affect your group performance. Employers don't like this kind of atmosphere in the office. Why not ask your supervisor or manager to settle your case, so that both of you can express your feelings and become friends again. Her silence means she was terribly hurt and only authority in your office can bridge the gap.
@reegan1207 (102)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
my advice for you friend is that give her some time to think..at least you have done your part through apologizing her..it is for her to realize how sorry you are..just give her sometime to think it over again..
as for my case, when i know that i have a misunderstanding with one person im not that type of person who is making a way for a conversation..i let it cold first before talking to the person..because as i have observed, when you talk to the person whom you have misunderstanding during that time you will say really bad words because you were very much angry..that is why i let it cold first before anything else before making any move..
