Feeling Out Of Sorts And Depressed A Bit
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
October 29, 2007 9:11pm CST
I had started a discussion about my friend who had lost two jobs back in July and she hadn't told me until maybe a month or so ago, and admittedly I was hurt that she hadn't told me about it...Well, I just heard from her and she did find one job at least..she does need a two income job situation because of all her high bills..but hey, at least now she has one job. So good news.
Then the sad news. Lisa, my friend was a saint, and when my mom and I were facing eviction issues because of the cat population problem my mom had created and by the landlord's "decree" we were only allowed two cats, I had to make a mad scramble to find new homes for all but two of the kitties....So a few pet rescuers came to the aid, and took some of the cats, and are doing great...But Lisa also took a few of my kitties, including Footie...whose original name was "Koshka", but the name Footie stuck as he was one of those kitties who had the extra toes on his front paws..My mom had gotten and adopted him from Bide-A-Wee on February 25, 1992, and had a wonderful, gentle easy going personality.
Well my friend gave me the sad news that Footie went to the Land Of Bast, and she buried him in her backyard next to one of her own cats that also passed away about a week ago. So admittedly, I'm not in the best of moods here. And I think any of you who also had the passing of a fur baby can understand how I'm feeling...In fact I'm downright weepy as I type this...I never cried when my mother died, yet here I am going with the waterworks over one of my former kitties...Does that make sense?Have any of you cried MORE over the death of a beloved pet, than a member of your family??I include a picture of Footie when he was still a little kitten
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Hon, I am so sorry to hear about Footie. I know it hurts so much right now, and yes, it does make sense about your crying over the loss. That was one of your babies, and you are mourning his passing. Just remember that he's up there playing with my Meg and all the other beloved pets that are waiting for us. Plus, he's watching over you now. Big hugs to you my dear friend. If you need a shoulder, I'm here for you hon.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I took a look at your page and saw the picture of your Meg...yes she and Footie are now playing together along with all our other "babies"...This may sound strange, but I've been out of sorts for the past few days...I think I sensed his passing...just like I did when one of my other cats passed on who was with one of the rescuers..I just "sensed" something..know that doesn't make sense...and thank you...for being there for me (((hugs)))
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Yes, it does make sense to me. You are very much in tune with your pets. Like I said, they are your babies. And mommies are always in tune with their children. It's just that inner "sixth sense" that resides in you, and it's also a gift that you have hon. Hold to that gift sweetie...next time you'll realize what it is and maybe even how to put it to use. More hugs to you hon.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I think I've always been more in tune with my babies...maybe too, it has something to do with my having had pets all my life, and being an only child they were like sisters/brothers to me..I grew up pretty much alone, yet my kitties were always there for me
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Thank you gabs....I do how much you have loved your babies too (((hugs))
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@AmbiePam (94119)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I'm sorry Pyewacket. I have wondered about myself when I cry over the passing of a pet, but not a family member. I think it is somehow intertwined, and that when we cry for that pet, we cry for other things we lost. It makes me sick to think of an animal dying when it had brought so much comfort and joy to the people around. I wish I could give you a real hug, but since I can't, just know I'm thinking about you and luv ya lots. : ) (Sherlock says the same.)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I sometimes wish our "babies" lived as long as we do...I've had pets since I was five years old, so I've known many deaths in the family so to say and it never gets easier when they do pass on...And thank you for thinking about me...((hugs to you too))
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I am so sorry to hear about Footie.A lost is a lost be it a pet or a person.Footie will be with you always. He may come and visit. If you see your other cats seem to be looking at something that isn't there, it may be Footie coming to visit.Take care.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
He may have visited very early this morning around 6:30 ...my two cats who are usually very quiet kitties suddenly started going berserk and were running around all over the place! That is definitely not like them
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
30 Oct 07
absolutely.every single time one of them passes.
i still cry over missing cats 20 yrs gone.
most of my family's worthless.
my condolences on footie/koshka's passing.
*hugs* :)
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Yes I still cry over my furbabies that have passed on years and years ago...and I know you recently had two friends leave as well...(((hugs)))
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Awww Pyewacket.... I'm so sorry to hear about Footie. Consider yourself hugged! I've a card for you however since I don't know your address, let me tell you what it says.
Front has two daffodils in front of a rainy window.
"In the loss of your pet"
"It's so hard to lose a special friend"
Inside: "Even though it hurts so much to part, Remember all your happy times together--
For as long as memories live within your heart,
the friend you loved so much will live forever."
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Aww---thank you so much!! That's is so beautiful!! (((hugs)))
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
30 Oct 07
SO glad your friend got a job yeah that will help her out for sure.
So sorry to hear your lost
and no I really havent cried more for a pet than a person and as you know i just lost my dog of 15 years so I do know how ya feel maybe cring for him helps out for not crying fo r your mom
hugs
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Yes, Lakota I remember your discussion about the passing of your own "baby"...I've had a lot of "Deaths in the Family" but have never gotten used to it :(
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
8 Nov 07
I'm so sorry sweetie!!!
That is so sad! I hope you are doing a little better now but if you need to talk you can email me anytime.
I'm sorry to that I'm just getting this discussion :(
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
10 Nov 07
Yeah I responded to that one :) And I think you are right about it too.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
10 Nov 07
Thank you. I feel a little better now..if you saw my other discussion about the weird thing that happened on Halloween night, I believe it was my Footie making a visit, and maybe some of my other kitties as well that night :)
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
12 Nov 07
It’s normal- I love my pets as well- I have had 3 cats get killed in the road- Each one I cried and cried- I have also lost a lot of family members- for each one I cried. I am truly sorry that you lost a pet and your mom. I hope your friend soon finds another job to help her with her bills. I know it’s a drag worrying about money all the time!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Oh I'm so sorry to hear that some of your babies were killed on the road. How horrible! YEs, my friend now has at least one job so that's good news.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
30 Oct 07
Hi pyewacket,
I'm sorry your friend didn't share with you right away, but then, I know all about people not sharing, so can relate. I'm glad to hear she has 'her first job' though.
I'm so sorry about Footie, and can relate here too. This has brought to mind a beloved kitty, that we had when I was growing up. Her name was Fluffy, but for some reason, we nicknamed her 'Beetle,' and she was loved very much by my mom. We still had her, when my mom passed away. Due to circumstances, we had to give her away to a dear friend, and this friend kept her, and loved her, until 'Beetle's' passing, at an old age.
I'm tearing up 'over Beetle, and your Footie' Pyewacket, so yes, I understand your tears. These beautiful pets are members of our family. I can't even imagine being without our 'beloved Anna Belle.' I must get some sleep, as I'm being overcome with emotion here, and it's very late too. Take Care. xxx
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
1 Nov 07
I have 'trouble' understanding how people can't love animals. In many cases, it 'seems' to have to do with their upbringing. Animals can teach us so much about unconditional love.:)
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Oct 07
OH---I'm sorry to hear of your loss too...I remember so many of my pals from over the years...if I were to list them all I'd be writing a book! Some people never understand why people like us get so emotional over a "dumb" animal..to my mind..they're the dumb ones
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
10 Nov 07
I know all too well what your going thru right now, pyewacket. 12 yrs ago it was Briar, then last fall it was Shady, and this past spring it was Lightning. I cried for months after Briar went to Rainbow Bridge, Shady I cried for a month, Lightning..for some reason..I am still crying over every nite at bedtime. I miss all three very much.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
11 Nov 07
OH YES!!! Because they are like babies, so innocent and trusting. When something happens to one of my babies it just ripps me apart. I admit have cried so much more for my 'kids' than for a person.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
15 Nov 07
It's so nice of you to reemmber that!! No, I never found him. Then only a month later, Judzia dissapeared!! I was going to start a discussion about this, but it was way too depressing. I just didn't want to talk about it. I had a dream a few nights ago that I walked outside to see Judzia trotting up the driveway and how I hugged and hugged her. Man... two of my three most cherished babies!! Maybe I will start a discussion. I never found out what happened to either of them. I checked the pound, but they only hold them for 3 days. I hate to think that they could have been there and ran out of time...
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Oh I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this. Strange that you had that dream though.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Nov 07
I almost am hesitant to ask this, but I remember in one of your discussions you mentioned that one of your babies had been missing...did you ever find Leo??? :(
@BarBaraPrz (47713)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
30 Oct 07
Yes, I've cried over kitties and not over people...
And when I left Vancouver to come back to Ontario, I cried because I was going to miss my friend's cat, not him. Go figure.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Did your friend get insulted that you weren't going to miss him??..did he think you bonkers??... I know many people think we're weird if we miss our pets more than people
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Oct 07
So sorry to hear about Footie, pyewacket, and I hope you will soon get over the depression. It's always sad when you lose a pet because they really are members of the family. I know that I have wept quite a bit over former pets. You can take some consolation in the fact that your friend is once again gainfully employed. You know what they say, half a loaf is better than none. Hopefully she will get extra work soon.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
31 Oct 07
You know what pw-the pet passing away may have brought on the culmination of sadness you hadn't expressed when your Momma passed away-yes,I've cried my eyeballs out when I've lost pets in the past & sometimes when I think of them I still get weepy & still cry over losing my Momma almost daily. My prayers are w/ you pw-((hugs))
+'s
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
1 Nov 07
I think I cry as much for a pet lost as I do for a family member. As far as I am concerned, they are family members! Sometimes it is easier for us to cry over an animal than over a human, especially if we have issues with that human, i.e., like anger or hurt. We never stay mad or have lasting hurt feelings with out pets. There is more, uncomplicated love in that relationship. Human relationships are so much more complex and often harder to grieve, I think.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
10 Nov 07
Pyewacket I can relate to excally what you are saying. I have know your mom was not the most stablest of beings. I also know she did not give you unconditional love like Footie did. I have shed so many tears for my lost pets I could water the whole garden.
You go right ahead and cry for the lose of your beloved friend she is in the land of Basts. By the way I have never head of that before. What is a Bast?
You take care Teapot
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Thats really good news that your friend found a job. I'm really sorry to hear about Footie. I don't blame you a bit for being weepy and teary eyed. I am the same way. Our pets are our friends,as well as a loved one. They are like our children and they are always there for us no matter what. They also put all of their trust in us and depend on us for everythig. Our pets are always there for us to talk to. Especially when there is nobody else to talk to or we rather not talk to humans. Our pets sense our moods, and are always there to show their love for us.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I'm so grateful now for the two babies I still have...I was giving them extra hugs and kisses to them when I heard the news about Footie...mmm....they just looked at me like, "Uh, huh, our mom's weird." Yes, they're very good at sensing our moods though...and without our telling them either
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
31 Oct 07
Hi Pyewacket..
Just wanted to drop by and offer my condolences over the loss of your beloved kitty Footie. Any pet owner will understand the sense of loss over any furry companion that was loved and lost.
I don't know if I've cried more over the loss of a beloved pet than I do with people...but I sure have cried when they pass on. To me our connections to animals are not all that different to people. Their unique energetic imprint touches ours and those exchanges are unique to their essence. So yes, I can understand why you feel down...and maybe the tears are a way of opening the channels to let other types of grief be cleansed and washed away.
You have had many setbacks in losses and now that life is going in a different direction Footie might be wanting to remind you that tears are also part of the healing process.
May the little cutie have peace within the next realm and I hope you move through this painful process soon and find some lightness in the days ahead.
My thoughts and energetic support are with you my friend.
Raia
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Thank you so much Raia. I think I may have been visited last night (Halloween) by some of my past fur babies too..maybe a topic for another discussion?? :)
@littlemissdaisies (52)
•
30 Oct 07
Im really sorry to hear you are feeling down! Losing a pet is never easy, as they are part of the family!!
Big hug to you!
S xx
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