Cheating
By stacienicole
@stacienicole (80)
United States
October 30, 2007 9:05am CST
If your husband cheated on you would you still trust him and want to spend the rest of your life with him and would you discuss this with your children (there young)?
9 responses
@ky1119 (698)
• United States
30 Oct 07
It would depend on the situation whether I would trust him again or not. Would I tell my kids? No. I'm a firm believer in not sharing adult topics and/or problems with my children. They're young, and I want them to stay young as long as possible. Sharing adult problems with them, in my opinion, would just force them to grow up too fast.
@stacienicole (80)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I stayed with him. We talked it out. Before we wouldnt talk about things. I got married young @ 17 and he was 20. After he cheated it seems like our marrage got stronger. We talked more things out. We told each other what we wanted from one another. It seems strange I know but I feel it was the best thing to happen to us. We have been married for 11 years now and have 3 children 10, 4, and 8 months. Now where we are now if he cheated I would leave. My oldest daughter remembers hearing us talk about it she was about 4 then and now she wants to know details.
@accsoumya (7)
• Denmark
30 Oct 07
No. I would not. If i KNOW HE HAS CHEATED AND I AM READY TO SPEND THE REST OF LIFE WITH HIM, THERE IS NO POINT DISCUSSING WITH MY KIDS
@stacienicole (80)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Well my daughter kinda figured it out. This happened a while back and she was 4 and she heard us discussing it. Well the point I was asking was. We worked it out and now she is 10 and she wants to know details and what all happened. I dont feel comfortable talking about it with her. She just has so many questions. I feel I can trust him and I am the only one in his life.
@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
7 Nov 07
We have a relationship of husband and wife. This is our legal, religious and social bond. We need mutual respect of our patience. But in case of cheating of my husband I will show him my anger. And will warn him. But I would never leave. I will try to forget and forgive his behavior and will tell him that he should not behave like this. Because our relation ship is base of the future of children. And it is based on mutual confidence. If he did not mend his behavior then I will start to cheat him.But remember that the person cheating to some one cheats himself.
Cheating. Wife, husband
@luckyteja (14)
•
31 Oct 07
Hi, Up to me to my level best i will try to carry on the relation ship.....First of all i will try to discuss the issue with my husband.....if he talks openly i mean if he agress and realizes the mistake that he has done then thats well and good, if thats not the can then stop arguing with him since if we drag this kind of sensitive things too much that could effect the roots of the relation ship itself...i will think abt the issue, and about how effectively i can tell to him such that he relaizes his mistake if at all he has done something wrong....But i dont want to gvie up the realtion....since that would effect the our lives and our kid's life too...
@cornchips50 (204)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
hmmmmm... well let me weight the cheating of your husband...
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Well I hope you don't mind but I am going to change the person to my wife. If I found out that she was cheating I could not trust her anymore and want a divorce. I would sit down with my kids and tell them why Mommy and Daddy cant be together anymore and That I still love them very much and it is not there fault that I am leaving. My Kids are 6,8,9.
@Aurone (4755)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I really don't think that you should discuss the details of your husband's infidelity with your child. She may be curious, but at 10 years old I doubt she would understand and she definitely doesn't need to know.
Secondly, I couldn't stay with my husband if he cheated on me. The loss of trust would be too great, plus he would have broken his vows. How could I ever believe in him or trust him again? And how could I live and love someone without that trust?
@AMWhelan (41)
• Ireland
30 Oct 07
I wouldn't be able to stay with someone whom I could not trust and who took such a selfish step. Clearly the children's wellbeing has to be considered. I think the negative atmosphere in the house if your husband stays has to be considered. It would most definately have an impact on the children. I would suggest that if you do decide to break up with your husband, there is no need to tell them the precise reason but do explain to them that their father can no longer live in the same house. If the children have access to their father even after break up and both parents have the opportunity to sit down with them and explain to them that they are loved, they should be less affected in the long run.
