Do you think people always want what others have (meaning love life)?

I have several girlfriends that want what I now have, a loving, caring, fun relationship with a wonderful man. However, I have been on the other side of the fence, I too had a relationship that to family and friends seemed like the 'perfect' couple with 2 beautiful daughters, a nice home, and always got along well....but behind closed doors, I went through mental abuse, and too much arguing. That is until New Year's Eve 2003, when shortly after midnight he started yet another argument (after we got home from friends) and said 'Why don't you just leave' my reply 'sounds like a plan' and after packing and finding a new place to live I moved out and we divorced. We now talk on the phone from time to time, I now live 1600 miles away, and we can actually caring on a conversation without arguing. However, I was never one to think to myself ' I wish I has what she has" because I knew maybe it's just a good act in public.

yes many people do that because of the point were necessitiy and wants have no diference to thoses people even when we know that it is not so.... the example applies to many but there are people who are extremely happy witht their married lives because of the simple fact of love, understanding and trust....But its always has been the grass is gtrreener on the other side of the river... No doubt there.

I think it does happen a lot, the image looks good, also a little bit od the grass always looks greener I think...I always think some people can put on a very good front but sometimes behind closed doors things can be very different....

Well I'm sure you know that perception is not reality. What you see at a restaurant may not be what it is like at home. We all want to have a loving and giving relationship but often the person we team up with does not match us. We don't know that until much later and that is the reason for so much divorce. Of course it is very clear what the relationship is if they argue in public but even that can be deceptive. There are couples that argue and fight but go right home and make love. What they have done is clear the air and it often can lead to being closer. There is no doubt that everyone would love to have what you refer to. For no matter what goes on in life you always have that love to come home to. And I can tell you there is nothing in life more important. We all should strive for that and settle for nothing less. But when we have it we should cherish it every day for one day that love will be no more and there is nothing in this world more painful.

YEs I do beause I wish it too when I see a very loving couple touching and sharing an intimate moment. Well we know that some people are shjow off when in public but I beleive that there are genuine couples who show their love for each other openly and dont care.