corporal punishment
By tatzkie
@tatzkie (644)
Philippines
October 30, 2007 9:19pm CST
recently here in cebu was the the launching of a global campaign to eliminate corporal punishment and violence against children. the main thing about this rest on the fact that many of our children all over the world has experience corporal punishment which degrade the children into lower human beings based on the UN convention of the rights of a child. This being a rampant occurence through out the world and through time are nowbeing check because of international conventions that aims to protect the child from any form of abuse and violence. It may be said, that if animals are protected with different laws, all the more a child, a helpless child. Isnt it that when you hit an adult, there are numerous cases that can be filed against the assailant? However, if you hit a child, helpless as they are, in the name of discipline, the society seems silent about it. How ironic that the helpless has lesser protection compare to the adult who have full control of their lives has more protection. Thus, it is just right to protect the child with laws. Instead of punishing a child in order to discipline, it is recommended to use positive reinforcement and correct nurturing to avert bad behaviours of the child. How effective will this be, remains to be seen in the next generations.
for now, what do you think about this? does your society in general support this kind of move?
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@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I really don't know what the society I live in promotes, although I see a lot of people spanking there children, I was spanked as a child, and people quote the bible or something and say 'spare the rod and spoil the child' but that has not been my experience. The spankings I got as a child never ever caused any improvement in my behavior, and additionally it put my parents in the role of enemy to my mind. I can't even imagine why someone would want to inflict pain on those they love, especially those so much smaller than themselves. Wait till they grow up and see what your rewards are. Therefore when I had children (2, a daughter who is now almost 30, and my son is nearing 21) I never ever used corporal punishment, I never hit either of my children, ever. I communicated with them. I explained things to them and got their co-operation. I didn't try to control their lives, even as children... I let them choose what they wanted to eat (of course I saw to it that they had relatively healthy choices!) I never made rules about the condition they kept their rooms in, or how they cared for their possessions and who they shared or didn't share them with, that was their business, but on the other hand if they made messes in the living room I would have them clean it up, even if I had to help them. But talking to them person to person must have been worth something because I have two wonderful friends who at one time were my children.
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
may your story inspire others to do so! i was spanked only once in my life. for that i felt some degree of fear towards my grandpa. but in general, i was born and raised without having experience violence from my parents. Though i was caught up with some childish brawl before which eventually help me to become tougher. Like you i agree that to talk is better than to spank. Coz as they mature theyll realize how much love and care they got from their parents. I think it is better to be loved than to be feared.
@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
I think that is good sign of a good campaign against corporal punishment or spanking to the children and I am aware of that. Every children have a unique behavior and a unique attitude toward other. Spanking is not the answer, instead we need to show them the beauty of love and respect, so that she or he know what is a good sign of a good behavior. Beside that we need to show them what we are, if we show that we have a bad attitude, that is an example for them. Having a good parent is having a good children. We are the model of our children and we must show to them.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Well, quite honestly, I still believe in spanking a child...but I think it needs to be done after the parent has calmed down and only on the behind. I don't think objects should be used either. You have to have some type of discipline for your children though or they will grow up to not respect you or care about what you think and will end up worse off than they were before. Alot of children these days are demanding and think that it is the parents obligation to make sure they get everything that they want. They throw fits and get way out of control and sometimes even get violent with the parent. It's usually the ones that have never disciplined their children to. A world without discipline is a chaotic world full of greedy teens and abusive children.
