some people behave rudely

I have found this very same thing, I wouldn't say rude as much as selfish, I love helping people if I can it was something my parents passed down to me, my dad was always helping people but I have noticed that of all my friends that I have helped many many times they never seem to be there for me either when I need a little and I hardly ever ask for it, it hurts a lot I know.

well, I think you are too kind to them :) Why don't you refuse if you mind ? And if you really want to help them, I think better you don't think the same way they will help you... no kind of that thing in this world, even with friends (only your family will really truely help you, that's what I learn about life). So I don't care if people are not nice to me, I just try being behave but not for them, but for myself pride. And if I can't help them just say sorry, but if I can, I already learn not to get the plus point from them. Life is not fair, that's true friend :)

I know people like this too, and it's not just "friends" but family. .I am always the one to get things from..but the only time people remember me is when they "need" something..It's not just to say "Hello"..But if I need something..like just a friend to talk to..that is all I ever ask for ..they are too busy..too sleepy or something else.

Hi Daffodil! You sound like a really good friend to them. I agree its rather rude not to include you. Maybe you shoud mention it to them but in a nice way that you would like to go with them when they go the movies on shopping. Just because they behave rudely doesnt mean you have too.

One thingthat I have learnt is that in any relationship, be it with friends or relatives , you must define the relationship. If you see something that is not to your liking[ when you don't like their taking advantage over you] you must learn to say' no'. Contrary to what many people would believe learning to say' no' is also a difficult thing because we alaways worry about how others would perceive things. 'Will I sound too cheap''are thoughts that one is likely to be plagued with That is why we should learn good presentation skills and learn to say' no' the right way. If we don't protest in the beginning and adopt patience in the name of courtesy, waiting for them to become self aware, then don't be surprisded if suddenly when you confront them one day they cooly say''But you did not say a thing so far. I never knew you were displeased. You kept quiet all this while. Was it all hypocrisy that you had this in mind and didn't speak?'OR ' I TOOK YOU FOR GRANTED . What is the big issue? Why should you get hurt?' YOU have to either help them without expectations whatsoever, or if you are going to be human define your relationship right in the beginning. Do not be too wellbehaved at the expense of yourself. Reciprocity is the name of the game and many are not willing to'give' but are only ready to'take.'

hi Daffodil20 so sorry to hear you experienced such thing but your friends are the common type of people here too bad that you made friends with egoist people i have some friends with the same attitude and i left them they don't give any luck i don't mean to act the same way as theirs i only do the 'take and give' principle so when people are just giving me troubles, i left them i'd do that way too if i were you thanks ^^

When some friends behave like this it hurts us a lot and make us worry too..it may look like a simple issue for others but we know that we are denied and solicited alone by friends.. My friends do hurt me sometimes and i feel lost in those situations..I try to convince myself and keep going..

I have been in your situation so many times and I think some people really behave weird towards others. How can they expect me to be their servant? Maybe your friends are jealous. After many times of treating me that way, i went ahead and looked for new friends and I started ignoring them one by one until I forgot about them. "Do unto others what you could expect them to do unto you". I really feel you my friend.

hi daffodil,wel i wanna say bcause i myself in a way is going through h same kinda problm but nobody's a idiot and nobody wanna act like one...there might be sum problem in their lives or anything troubling them and as a friend we should try n solve it instead of complaing or running away,but ya,even after all your efforts they dont do gud,as per me they are not gud enough to be my friend.u must just let them go.there's always a time to let spring release its tension.....bbye and take care/