Threatened by your best friend

hmmmm sounds like a strange thing to ask, I used to be a very trusting person when it came to friends until my best friend whom I trusted 100%, she was like a sister had a bit of a play with my then boyfriend and since then I now believe you trust people only to a point as human nature is human nature and things can happen between anyon two people, people make excuses for whatever they really want, humans are the most selfish sneaky animals of all...

Sometimes bestfriends could turn out to become the best enemies. You must try no to skip it for you might get surprises in the end. Try to be observant but not suspicious to your husband and bestfriend. Just an advice.

Well she may fancy your husband. I mean if you married him he must be a bit of all right! The big, big question is can your husband resist the charms of other girls - your friend or any other girl? I'm sure the answer is yes.

In my opinion, most normal people would not ask that question. Her asking that would make me think that she's having thoughts about trying to hook up with your husband, has some kind of feelings for him, or there was already something going on. It would kindof make me wonder if she was asking to see just how much of a risk there would be about me getting suspicious or finding out. I think you should talk to her about it. If my best friend asked me that same question, I would probably start having doubts about just how good of a friend she really is, and exactly what the underlying meaning of the question might be. You should look into it, just to be sure and for your own peace of mind. On the other hand, she may have been asking to make sure for herself that you didn't have any doubts about your friendship, and that you weren't going to be thinking that she'd do anything in relation to your husband just because she was having marital issues of her own. Either way, you should try to find out, just to be sure.

What a strange question to ask! Maybe it's just her being emotional due to the pending divorce? I'd be a bit concerned if my best friend turned around and said that to me. Maybe you should express your concern to her and explain that the question made you feel a little uncomfortable. Maybe it's her way of making sure that the friendship is solid and that you don't feel threatened now that she is newly single. Personally, I'd have a word with her, but it could just be her way of making sure you're ok with it all? Let us know what you decide to say or do!

oh darling I think you are overthinking this. I am not familiar with what sort of society you come from but here in Malaysia, divorcees get a horrible reputation simply because she is divorced. The thought that many people think is that 'she didn't know how to treat or keep her husband in her life' or 'she isn't suited to be married because she wants other men',etc. You see? And an immediate withdrawal is usually followed because other women are concerned that their newly divorced 'friend' may become enticed by their own irresistible partner. It is sad and can often be lonely for a woman who goes through divorce. It does not matter how justified the reasons (abuse, lack of money, husband cheating, etc), most women around said divorcee will pull back from their own fear of losing their husband. personally, I believe that if that does happen-it takes TWO PEOPLE to tango so it isn't fair. In your case, I think someone may have pointed out to her that her other married friends may feel threatened by her new singlehood. Perhaps she merely needs assurance that you will be there for her if she goes through a difficult phase in her life, in this case divorce. Just don't jump to conclusions. Trust your husband AND your friend. If you feel uncomfortable, ask your husband to back off when you are with her. She is YOUR friend after all, not his, right? Hope you sort your thoughts out.

Hhmm well its definately an odd question to say the least BUT it could just be that she is needed to reassure herself that she's still a hottie, OR, she may have just been curious if your feelings towards her have changed at all due to her getting divorced OR she just might have been curious...

That is a very strange question, but if it bothers you so much why don't you just ask her about it? Just ask what made her ask such a question. She might need reassurance that she is still attractive and men still want her and that she is a threat to the female gender still. She might just want you to know that she is not a threat to your relationship because you are married and she will not be soon. Sometimes that does happen in friendships. The dynamics change and a jealousy will ensue or you might see her being flirtatious with your husband and it means nothing but you start to see it as something because now she is divorced. Sometimes we are blind to our friends and don't see things that should be pretty obvious to the average person, but your friendship and love for that person blinds you to it. Who knows, just be cautious and ask your friend why she asked that.