dating someone not married but has a kid(s)

If he is not into a relationship all i can say is thats alright maybe he is finding for his right someone.. Theres nothing wrong with that we people we need and search for love. It doesnt matter if with kids or no kids at all. As long as he respects you and never demand anything from you like "Can you look after my kids ,whilst im away" like a nanny or something thats alright.Try it and see if you like the feeling. But if he is married and have some responsibilities in his married life..Nah ..dont try it gurl..youre just hurting the kids if you do that.

Wow. This definitely sounds like a weird situation that I'm glad that I'm not in. :-) My first advice would be to listen to any gut feelings that you have. New relationship or not, you have a right to know what their living arrangements really are. Life is too stressful without having to worry about what's really going on behind his doors. One thing I've learned in relationships is never settle because you'll never know your true potential.

ah, I would never ever accept that. I could not stand the man I was dating living with his ex. i would not be sure that they were not messing around mehind MINE back and I was the one beeing played as well. Has he intoduced you to easchother?

If they are still married, and she doesn't know he's dating you, then yes, you are messing around behind her back. However, I'm sure she knows it if you've been around. If they have an agreement that they can date other people while still living together to take care of the kid, then that's fine. You two dating is no problem with their understanding. I've know married people to be separated but still living together for certain reasons before, whether it's for the kids or because they have nowhere else to go at the time. And they are not still around each other out of obligation. They don't have to be together to take care of their kid, and she has the option to leave any time she wants. If you feel weird about it, you need to tell him and see what he says about it. Find out exactly what their arrangement is while still living together, just so you're clear on everything. Will probably help put your mind at ease some.

My dear I don't recommend that kind of relationship. Someone is bound to get hurt and in all probability it will be you. The man is having a relationship with the mother of his child no matter what he says. Find someone else that is free and you can be number one in his life.

Best things i learned from my parents: Cherish life...you only pass this way once, make the best of it... Life can be made better by knowing your options. Beginning today, make it a healthy one. In that situation you will ruin your life this all i can say.

Can I ask a few questions? Does the ex still sleep in his bed, or does she now have her own room? I would feel totally weird in this situation. But why does this man feel that he has to keep the ex around? If she is unable to support the child, she should let him have custody, right? There is no obligation to live together because of a child. In the long run that could cause problems for the child. I find it noble that this man is willing to help his ex, but what if your relationship gets more serious, like moving in serious? Then how will you feel about the ex being in the same house. My best advice, make friends with the ex, and make the best of the situation for the child's sake. I take my own advice as I am great friends with my husbands ex-wife. We go out for coffee, talk on the phone at least once a week, and we attend functions together as one big family. But we would only allow her to live in our house if she had fallen flat on her face and had no one else to turn to. Well, that isn't true. If she needed a place to stay, we would open our door to her, but my husband and I have been together over 6 years now. We are very solid in our relationship and know that there are no worries.

does sound like a very wierd sitution not sure I could handle it

Hi twinbulls1980,its good to have realtion and dating with a friend you like . But be sure that he is not cheating his ex-woman and willl not cheat with you. So with care and awareness you can alwys enjoy thios realtion ship.

i think in relationship the must important thing is that one should find happiness and confort. but in ur own case since ur date and the ex are still seeing each other, i belive he will not love you the you do. think

I was in that situation before. I was also dating a man(not man enough for me) who has 2 kids already. I learned a lot of things in life from him. I feel pity to him, the mother of his kids doesn't want him to go out of their house (they're living also in the same roof), doesn't want him go to work. He suffer so much with that situation until decided to ran away from his kids and to the mother, but he never forget his obligation to his children. Albeit his presence is absent he continually support his kids in financial aspects. So sad on his situation, the mother doesn't want him also to finish his studies, the mother of his kids still keep on bothering him.

Hello! I have never been in this situation myself, though I used to know a man who had his ex-wife living with him for the kids' sake. They acted as though they were roomates that were not close to each other (friendship-wise). Now, as for me, I'm not sure if I could have handled a situation like this. Ic an understand the mind process behind doing it. They are concerned for the kids not having both parents in the house. But for someone dating one of them, it would be very ackward.