Pseudo-relationship, been into that?

Ah yes, I've definitely been there. When I was younger, I was in many such relationships, for several different reasons. Mostly just that among my friends there was a lot of "lack of boundaries". Most of the things lovers do were accepted among friends as expressions of emotion just the same as among lovers... so it was always hard to figure out who was dating who and what exactly was going on if you were an outsider looking in. I kind of miss that kind of thing actually, because it felt like having a lot of people who cared about me intensely. To be honest, I have to be really careful with my current friends, because I know they don't have the same background I have, and thus would misunderstand if I treated them like I treated my old friends. I've also been in those relationships when I was more than friends, less than lovers because there were other relationships involved... and that's complicated to deal with as well. I don't think it's necessarily confused in all cases though. The relationships I was in like this when I was young all felt comfortable, warm, simple, accepting... not confused at all.

I've been in some "pseudo-relationships" with guys who weren't just my friends, but not really my boyfriend either. There were instances when both of us weren't really up for a relationship at the time and we just wanted to be sweet to each other and stuff. And there were other times when I've told the guy not to expect me to be his girlfriend, but we still went out on dates anyway. Buy you're right, there are a lot of different reasons why such relationships/flings exist.

I can't say that I've really been there, unfortunately. Being as shy as I am, I haven't had the number of relationships at this stage in my life as most people have probably had. I've been in relationships, just not pseudo-ones. That would be pretty difficult for me, anyway, as I tend to fall completely and utterly in love when I do fall. Heh.

I have had a few relationships that fit this catagory. They were mutually "understanded" just for fun. They all happened in the same era in my life..The 3 years after my divorce. In my case, these relationships were not healthy, but at the time I thought there was nothing wrong mixing friends and physical pleasure. Why not? It didn't mean anything. Well, I was wrong. I am not proud of who I was at that time. I used people to fill a void. But I wonder...would I be who I am now, without that experience? I do believe that anyone in a relationship like this is "confused" in one way or another. Healthy relationships require love, trust, intimacy...to name a few.