Shutting Up versus Talking: Which one is harder for you and why?

Shutting up is more difficult when you know that there is something you need to say or speak up about. :P

Hi Ailema, Well I think its harder for me to shut up, while in some instances I can be shy and wont say a word, in others Im very confident and outspoken and will speak up if I feel passionately about something. Its best to by quiet and liste most times, you will definately learn a lot more! You cant really learn or hear anything else if your doing all the talking. lol I admit I do talk a lot, but I do know when its important and I need to stop and listen. Good wishes for you learning Finnish! Im sure your mother in law is enjoying teaching you and helping you to speak it well. Bay Lay Gray xx

D// None of the above. There are places that I am that I talk a lot. Then there are other places where I don't really talk at all. I can do either pretty easily it's usually just my own choice whether I want to talk or not talk.

I understand you so good, what you are talking about. I have similar problems, specialy with new language. I am learning english and also other languages as well, but I am too shy to use them, when I go to the store or so, becuase I think my accent is not so nice and I would like to speak like people born in the country. What is not impossible, but I am sure it would take me a lot of years to be able have a aceent liek them and aslo speak with so proper grammar. Also when I am between new people, I would no talk much. I have to come closer to people and then I would start to talk and have no problems. So it is much harder for me to talk like shut up.

I'm really talkative if I speak my mother tongue,but when it comes to English then i become pretty shy.Because I'm afraid of making mistakes.So it depends.Hehe,good luck with your finnish~

Shutting up vs. talking: which is harder for me? I guess shutting up is harder, although I'm the quiet and shy type person, thus, I tend to shut up. However, when someone asks me to talk, I sometimes get carried away, maybe because I'm usually quiet. It's a complex system of personality actually. hehe. I agree with you ailema4ever that it's harder to talk or speak up when learning a new language or speaking in a different language. My country, the Philippines, is an archipelago and we have 90 languages. Whenever I go to a different region we have to somehow speak a different language and this gives me some difficulty. Even in our national language Pilipino/ Tagalog, I get stuttery and have a different accent. My accent would be one that is from my province or region. I also learned the French language and I still have difficulty speaking up my thoughts. I just know the simple conversational stuff. I guess I can practice some more, like you do with speaking Finnish. Good for you at least you have your mother-in-law to talk to in Finnish. Here in my province French is not used as a language, I hope to go to some place later on where I can use French. Right now, I'm just enjoying going around my country and trying to speak other local languages.:)

I too like to shut my mouth when I go to a new place or meet a stranger and wait for initiative to come from other side. Once familiar, I keep talking and I also love tolisten. In fact one will gain more if one is a good listener. Your policy is good. You are the first person from finland became friend. Are you originally from Phillipines or China? You look like one.

I have some strong opinions.. and love to discuss them whenever I get the chance, and then it's hard for me to shut up! Because most folks like to hear just a little snippet now and then, if that, about (religion and politics!) but I have so much to say! :)

talking is harder for me. and its easier for me to shut up. many times i prefer to shut up than open my mouth and say anything unless i really need to. i usually find it harder to talk when im with my mother and her friends or officemates. sometimes i just feel like being silent. ^.^ however, there are times when i really need to talk, like let out something i feel. that's when i'm feeling happy, when i'm with friends or when i'm very angry. ^__^

Hello ailema4ever, It is hard for me to shut up rather than to speak up. But, I am quite 'choosy'. I don't speak too much when I first met a stranger or to not-so-close friends. Whenever I am at home, I am the most talkative person that my husband always ask me to shut up *laughs* He says it is hard to live a day without listening to my story! Anyway, he missed that when we stayed apart before *laughs*

I can appreciate how it would feel awkward to initiate conversations in a country where there is a language barrier. As I mentioned before it is admirable that you are working hard to settle into your new setting. I am sure you will adapt well. In my case the work I have done..and continue to do involves an even exchange between talking and listening. I am not at all backward about initiating conversations in any setting...but also value the importance of being an attentive listener as well. To me conversation is like a dance...it works best when both sides are cooperating in the process. Wishing you well Hon..take care! Raia

It really depends. I am quite talkative when I'm with my friends, but I don't usually try to start conversations. But if I'm with people I don't know very well, I tend to keep to myself, but I listen, so I hear a lot of things they don't think I do. Thats cool that you're learning Finnish! I'm learning Ameican Sign Language =P All the best, Commonsense0

Same here. I am not also a talkative kind of person. I am more of into thinking than talking. I will think first and analyze the situation before i give my honest opinion. But if it is pure conversation of anything under the sun, I do share my thoughts and humor. But usually with good friends, family, and relatives only. I avoid talking too much so less mistakes on my part.

I can be very talkative but am happiest in a crowd of people I know. Here in America I have learned to be quieter (lol) as I have to be careful that I am not misunderstood so am much more outgoing with people who know me than casual strangers. It gets hard having to think about even the simplest thing you are saying every day so you have my total admiration learning a new language . Congrats on finding the classes :-)

I don't talk, lest someone or somebody approaches me to engage with a chat. I'm a laid-back type of a person, I prefer to not excess any effort when I really don't have any use for it!;)LoL But I used to be talkative when I was a kid, I just became more aware when growing up. I tend not to talk even when I know of something that people talking is not familiar of, I find it easier to say things when people are in the mood to listen and not just TALK alot!;)

hi again ailem if the person is close to me like friends my husband,family i usually cannot stop talking everyseconds,every minute always ratatat-tat hehe like armalite but when new people im very shy i dont talk more or except they asked me something that i need to answer:-)