To forgive while there is pain or to forgive after the pain is gone?

Philippines
November 2, 2007 7:06am CST
If someone had hurt you so badly and that someone wasn't able to asked forgiveness from you would you prefer to forgive him while the things he had done is still very painful? or would you prefer to forgive him just after the pain is gone and you are already recovered about what had happened from the past? Honestly, before I can just forgive someone who hurt me so much just after I can no longer feel the pain but then when my Philosophy professor told us in our class that it is better to forgive while the pain is still there because if the pain is already gone there's no use of forgiving that person anymore. There will be no reason at all to forgive him if you feel no pain at all. Somehow it made me realize...how bout you guys?what's your opinion about this?
5 responses
yueyzhqd
@yueyzhqd (47)
• China
2 Dec 07
No matter how, I will forgive him/her. when you forgive someone, you forgive youself. you bring youself out of a circle. the best way to forgive is to forget. face the future, tomorrow is better than today!
honey_rose
@honey_rose (28)
• Philippines
30 Nov 07
Well, forgiveness is a process. You can never forgive a person when your really on emotional stage wherein your mind is block by anger. Time is the key so let the pain gone first before you convince yourself that you've forgiven him or her. Let's be sincere and love more ourselves first before we make other people happy.
crazymare
@crazymare (11)
•
2 Nov 07
Life has taught me to forgive while the pain is still there, because it gets rid of the anger and hurt and i hate to have those emotions running through me, life really is too short. After all I have made my own fair share of mistakes and although unintentional, i have caused hurt to others. Even if the person who caused the hurt did not ask for forgivness, I would still give it, even if its just in my own head. I hope that made sense lol
Scarcher
@Scarcher (14)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 07
To forgive while the pain is still there is not an easy feat, but it shows how wide our heart is. In some cases, the pain won't go away completely. Wound heals with time...but sometimes it leaves a scar. Forgiven not forgotten.
shangyemin
@shangyemin (7)
• China
21 Nov 07
More forgiveness,more peace.if you give your forgiveness,you will be more generous and warmhearted,it is helpful for you to form a good tempreature.But sometimes you can beat him/her with brick to show you are not weak.