which is the right age to think about marriage?
By tonyllenium
@tonyllenium (6252)
Italy
November 2, 2007 7:55am CST
in many coutries the age to marry is various depending from culture and thoughts as well..many people think about that it's better think to career than marriage other not..but which is the right age to marry in your opinion?
ifyou are married , when u did it?
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31 responses
@motaz4 (133)
• Egypt
2 Nov 07
i like to marry now,but money it is only thing can not make me marry i will wait untill i have alot of money,i like to have children and marry my love girl.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
3 Nov 07
i know here in italy we have the same problem in many cases such as people don't marry because have enough money to do it!!!it's a pity like that so i wish you good luck!!
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
9 Dec 07
The right time is when your ready to put your self in responsibilty,beacuse merraige life have lot of cercumtances you need to prepare for all of those problem will come & be strong because man will give right path for your family.
@Dask1221 (160)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I have actually been married twice, currently and once before. I got married the first time two months before I turned 19, and it was too fast and too early. I was naive and I was in love (with the wrong person). Now that I am older and have found a good man, I am happy and know it is right. I think the right age to get married depends on the person. I think you should at least be of adult age before you're allowed to marry, even with parental consent. You can get married at 17 in the US if your parents allow it. I don't think there really is a right age. I think that you should get married when you are truly in love and ready to take that step, ready and happy to devote yourself to one special person for the rest of your life, and know that you are done wanting to have the freedom of being single and wanting to sleep around. If you find that one person and want to spend the rest of your life with them and them alone, and you know without a doubt that they feel the same way, then I think you're ready to get married, and not otherwise. I think arranged marriages in other countries are rediculous. You should marry for love, not have someone tell you who you have to marry and at what age.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
3 Nov 07
wow!!you got married twice and you are so young..i saw some comments on this puposes coming from us..so i think that in us people like marry very much even if they are younger!!!but thanx to share your experience was interesting
@chunter (1759)
• Singapore
9 Dec 07
There isn't really a right age to get married....
It depends on so many things....whether you can find the right partner....whether both of you are prepared to live together for the rest of your lives....
You have to decide on all these things....which may mean from early 20s to early 30s....
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
7 Dec 07
The right age is when you are ready. That could be 18 or it could be 81. It all depends on what you want. Not what your parents want or what your friends are all doing. You do what you want.
@gorgeousdreamer (1034)
• Philippines
3 Nov 07
I'm not thinkin' about the age. I just wanted to be stable and then that's the time that I would be ready to get married. I wanted to raise my child properly. I wanted to be financially, emotionally and physically stable when I get married.
@hiteshrawat (194)
•
7 Dec 07
well in India, legal age is 21 for man and 18 for the lady which i think should be equal like 18 or 20.
If we can vote at 18 and drive at 16 then we should also have the rite to marry about 20. 20 i think should the minimum age of marring.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
3 Nov 07
I don't think age realy maters in getting married. As long as you are intellectualy, spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially ready, then you can start planning of settling down. Of course, love should be the prime reason. Because it is the only emotion that will make you cling on to the marriage if everything seemed to be faling apart.
@IssaHam (73)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I am married, and I got married when I was 18 years old. I have been very happily married for almost 5 years now! A lot of people are shocked by how young I was, but I knew that I was ready and that I was marrying the right person.
I think as long as you know what you are getting into and you are ready for that, and you know that you are marrying the right person without a doubt, there is no Right or Wrong age to get married.
I know of young kids (~16 years old) that have had a baby together and they want to get married, but the laws won't allow them to. I've also heard of people in their 50's+ getting married. Age should not be a factor in marriage, it should be all about how much you love each other and whether or not you feel ready for that commitment!
@say_raja (7)
• India
3 Nov 07
In my opinion when your mind sets for anew lif and your want of alife partner is extreem,it is the right time to merry.it is depend upon a person that when he or she is mentally prepar for marriage.I think wen you have enough money to make a new set-up and you are ready to take challenge,you can merry.I am married and I did it when I was of 30.
@Bada711 (42)
• China
3 Nov 07
first,i want to ask you a question.do you have pressure that comes from your family,if you do, i think you do not need to listen their advice totally.well,i haven't got married,but in my opinion marriage is very important to your life ,it can change your life .as you know wife different from girlfriend.when you get married you have face the ture life .for example,you have feed the new family and you do have to work hard,someday you'll have a baby .that's the big problem you'll never meet.so i suggest you think about these problem before you marry.at last you should getting marry just when you are rich ,it means that you have the ability to pay for many bets.i think 30 is the right age to mary.
@xleslieanne (692)
• United States
7 Dec 07
i don't believe there is a right age. it just depends on other things.. like a person's maturity level. and if the two people are in love. age shouldn't be a part of it. i'm nineteen and my boyfriend, 26, and i are planning on marrying in january.
@LessEvenThanOdd (84)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Marriage, when you say i love you to that specil person for the 1st time thats when you are ready to get married. I'm 22 and i said it already so very soon im fixing to propose to her.
@adawnanaaron (291)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Well im 24 years old Right now and i got married twice already. But now I am married to a wonderful man with 3 children and we've been married for 3 years so when yu think its time if yu truley love someone its when yur ready it doesnt matter how old yu are.
@meilina (78)
• China
3 Nov 07
Hello, tonyllenium!
It is hard to tell the exact age for someone getting married. But there is sure a answer to your question. That is how well you get prepared for your marriage. Given that you've meet the right person and you want marry her, if you get ready, from all aspects, then you can knot the tie with her, vice versa.
Getting well prepared consistes in all the aspects that are essential to a happy and healthy marriage, such as finance, career, the sense of responsibility, the commitment to marriage, etc.
@qinqin1202 (376)
• China
3 Nov 07
well, i have not married. in our country, people usually get married between the age of 20 to 30. you know, if you want to have a baby, you or your partner would better be pregant before 30. as giving birth to a kid after that age is dangerous.
as for me, there is no right age. i think maybe after i have save enough monay.
@laurentyu1 (743)
• Romania
2 Nov 07
I don't think there is such thing of right age but knowledge comes with age that is true.You have to be mature enough to do that step in your life,because marriage is not something that you do to be done this is an important step in your life.
@marabdl86 (615)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I'm 20 right now and in no way am i ready for marriage lol I hear people say they got married at 18 and im like shocked that they would even consider the idea. Honestly what do you know about love at 18? Notthing is ready at such a young age. IMO I wouldn't think about having kids until my 30s I might get married way sooner than that :)
@NoHise (11)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 07
married is about commitment and responsibilities. when you find the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you are ready to make that commitment, that is the right age to think about marriage. i got married at 27 and we have been married now for 6 yrs and its hard at times, but u have to make it work. good luck to u !!