Do you let others discipline your child?

OK well first of all I do discipline my kids BUT if we are at someone else's home and my kids do something that the person doesn't agree with then yes I do let them discipline because you cannot teach your kids they can get away with certain things with one person but not with others. If my kids are being babysat I agree with discipline as long as it is not taken too far. I do not believe in spanking for every little thing kids do wrong. I use time outs and such. I believe the child wants to live with you because you gave him the discipline he needed. Kids crave structure even when they are fighting it. They fuction better if there is routine in their life and by you doing something about the bad thing he sees you as being the one that cares. His mother needs to find out what parenting is all about. She should not be calling her child such horrid names. If it were me and my friend's kids came and told me this I would report her. How can anyone call children these awful names?? They're only kids and need our love and attention not abuse and neglect. Good luck in whatever you decide hun Hugs

Sounds to me like the mom is the problem. My child too would have been in the corner with a time out for such a mouth. Since the mother is coming to you, the next time her son says these things ask her where would a 5 yr old have learned it, or point out it will get him in trouble some point down the line. other people may not be as patient as you.

I do not allow others to discipline my child, unless they are her child care providers, or her grandparents when they keep her. But, I do not allow that type of behavior from my child. If my daughter had said those things to someone, I sure wouldn't have been laughing, I WOULD HAVE sat her in time out myself and if it continued, she would have gotten a butt whoopin and went to bed.

I try not to discipline other people's children, simply because most parents would be offended if you did. (I would prob. be offended if someone tried to discipline my child.. w/out my permission, and I was sitting right there) I however, would not allow such awful words out of my son's mouth. My three year old is not allowed to say Stupid let alone a cuss word! There have been times, when a friend was just allowing her child to destroy my house, pulling all the toys out everywhere.. and When her mother was busy with the baby, I made the toddler go and pick everything up.. The mom didn't know.. and I gave her a stern talking to, about respecting other people's stuff (she was also throwing toys, and climbing on the entertainement center in the playroom to get pictures off the walls) When she is at my house now, she usually behaves, if she is misbehaving, either me or my hubby will go back there and talk to her while the other distracts the mother. (: I know, it's horrible, but if she won't discipline her kid, and I enjoy the mother's company, even though we disagree on strictness, I'm willing to discipline her lightly. I of course wouldn't spank her, or put her in time out.. b/c her mom is there, and should deal with those things. BUt in a situation like yours.. I prob. would have done the same thing. I can over look a few rude behaviors, but if a child cussed at me, and the parent's response was laughter.. They would either need to deal with it or leave.

I don't really let anyone who isn't family discipline my son. that said, if my son said any of those things to one of my friends, I would expect that friend to wash his mouth out with soap at the very least. A sound spanking wouldn't be frowned upon, to be honest. There's no reason for a kid to be using those words, let alone addressing another person in that manner. As for what her son said about her... if I were in that situation, I'd wonder what other methods of abuse she was employing. Because calling your kid those things is a type of abuse.

I forgot to add it obviously isn't the kids fault. Maybe you need to do a little sit down with your friend. I don't know where the heck she gets off talking to a 5 year old like that!

You can speak to him calmly by saying, "i cannot say yes or no" but if you will be good to all people around you there are lots of them who will love you and wanted you to be with...unlike her mother.

I would have never let my child speak to anyone that way without handling it on my own, so it's hard to say how I would have reacted if someone else had done to my child what you did to this boy. If I hadn't been there to discipline my child, and someone had disciplined one of them in the way you did, it would have been the last time they ever saw my child. Fifteen minutes in time out for a five year old is three times too long, for starters. And washing a child's mouth out with soap is, IMO, abusive...it can make a child sick, or even kill them.

No offense but what is this Time out bull? lol If a simple talking can't fix the problem I know a a@@ whooping would. Maybe that's why kids act the way they do because they lack dsicipline. Most parents now and days are kids themselves so what can you expect. Timeout lol

I let others discipline my child verbally. If my son or my daughter are being impolite i let them discipline my kids. But to discipline my kids physically i will fight for that. I wont let them hurt my kids. If my kids are being rude or they do some nasty things to others and never liked them they can alwaysa come to me and i will be the one to speak to my kids. It happened one time that my son did a nasty thing and i spank him in front of other people and there is a psychological reaction that made me realize that i was so wrong.