Smoking in the same room with someone that has asthma.

No Brenda I don't think you are wrong at all! I am allergic to cats very badly so I can't even have one in the house, and I get asthma whenever my allergies act up or during hayfever season, so I know what it's like not to be able to breathe. When I smoked I went outside because I didn't want the smell in the house, and I didn't want my daughter getting second hand smoke! If your hubby has a wife with asthma, and watches his grandkids a couple of days a week I don't think he should be smoking in the house at all! Just my opinion, but yes I see exactly where you are coming from hun! Love & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.

Sorry but I think your husband is an inconsiderate pig. I can't imagine how some guys can be like that, not providing for the family, not caring one bit, being insensitive to the very people that he is supposed to love.

No you are not wrong in this at all and I think you should make it very plain to him He obviously does not care that he is making you worse And what a stupid thing to say about the Cats He should defiantly not smoke in the Bedroom that is terrible I am a smoker and I have to try and quit as I have Emphasimia COPD Asthma and Chronic Bronchitias and I will be quitting but one place that I will not smoke is my Bedroom He is very selfish and I think you need to tell him quite bluntly to stop smoking around you specially as you pay all the Bills and he does nothing

My hubby has asthma and when I used to smoke, I went outside to smoke so he wouldn't have to suffer. Your hubby is being very inconsiderate by doing something that will degrade your health slowly but surely till eventually you end up with emphazima (sp). Seems like he doesn't love you very much to be doing this to you. Cats are something else entirely. You have to be allergic to cats for them to affect your asthma. We have 3 cats but they don't bother him at all. It's the smoke and not just ciggs either. Any kind of smoke will bring on an attack.

Hi Brenda, for starters I am sorry for you breathing trouble...Now for your husband, and I may sound harsh here, but, he has got to go...He is not contributing anything to your relationship except for grief...This smoking in front of you is just the icing on the cake as far as how much he really doesn't care about you or anyone for that matter....Does he smoke in front of the grandkids because if he does then that must stop as well?...He sounds very selfish..He needs to be kicked in the rear and made to get out on his own...He is using you and you are too good of a person to be having to go through this type of hell...It doesn't matter if you are allergic to your cats..Smoking is a much more unhealthy problem and second hand smoke is worse than the one smoking it...It sure does make me mad when someone thinks they can just walk all over someone else...He seems to enjoy taunting you and that is not nice...No, you are not wrong...He is the problem..

you are no way wrong brenda, and dont ever think so . love, apple.

You shouldnt have to put up with anything that damages your health in your own environment. My dad used to smoke around me when I was little and it gave me lungs issues years later, to say nothing about your immediacy to your husband, my dad wouldnt stop when i asked either. my gf has asthma, and I don't smoke, but wouldn't around her if I did, i don't let anyone else either.I hope he sees the light for your sake *hugs*

Hi brenda! NO you are certainly not wrong. You shouldnt even allow him to smoke in the house. Tell him he must smoke his cigerattes outside. And its that simple. Being allergic to cats is alot different then having asthma. Thats life threating.

No I don't think you are wrong. This is why they have passed so many no smoking laws in various states. Now I am a smoker with asthma and have been smoking for 45 years. My wife does not smoke. I respect her and try not to smoke near her as well as around other non smokers. I will go outside a lot to smoke to avoid my wife having to breathe the air I dirty up. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

No, you are not wrong at all. You should not have to be subjected to smoking especially with the asthma. I do not have asthma and I am sensitive to smoking. I do not like being around it. Since you pay the bills, the least he could do is have the courtesy not to smoke in the house.

No, Brenda, you are not. You need to point out that since you are the bread winner, he might want to respect your wishes or he could be sleeping under a bridge.

You're definitely not wrong. You support him and his habit, but he can't extend you a few small courtesies? Screw that. He owes it to you. As for the whole "cats" arguement. Many doctors will tell you that people who have allergies to pet dander who are exposed to it constantly can develop an immunity to it. My niece is allergic to cats. They have a cat, which is how they found out she was allergic. The doctor said that prolonged exposure to the cat would help her get over the allergy. My younger sister developed a feline dander allergy in her late teens, again the doctor said to expose her. So the cat arguement doesn't hold any water. He needs to knock his crap off and show you some respect.

even i dont like people who smoke near me. i am allergic to dust and smoke. people should learn to respect the feelings of others. if i were a smoker i wud never smoke if others object to it. thats normal human behavior.

Wow thats hard. Well my hubby and I use to smoke outside. Nobody have asthma in this house but to keep the house smelling nice we always go outside to do the puffing dragon habit.

No your right to insist it , he should have the decency to do so without you asking /beggimg ... sounds like an a-hole to me , I`msorry he makes you suffer this way , I would leave and give a bit to think about how is treats you, maybe then he`ll realize what you do for him and what he should do for you ... Make him ponder on it I would ....

hmmm well buy him a helmet and tell him to smoke inside his helmet or sing in ur most horrible voice at d loudest volume when he does dat. jokes apart hmmm i prefer not to say anything coz i dont know how dat man is, dont want to say anything dat may enrage him and get u hurt

it is really cruel of your husband. How can he do that when he knows his wife has asthma. its very harmful for asthma patients. You should make a point with him very hardly. Say your cats can't be ontrolled always, but being a responsible aduklt can he act so irresponsible?

Oh dear this man needs to be put in singulsar confinement lol. I don't think her deserves such a precious gift called a wife..You have patience of steel and I do hiope that all will get better for you my frined. What a life, suffering and we try to laugh through it..I will pray for you..hugz

You are not wrong at all! It sounds to me like your husband doesn't really give a crap about you. A good, caring husband would completely understand that his habit aggravates his wife's condition and would stop, and not try to throw excuses in your face. Seeing as your husband isn't being considerate enough to do that, makes me think he's not worth having around, especially since you are the sole provider obviously for the two of you. It doesn't sound like he lifts a finger to help you at all. Even though my husband and I smoke, whenever we go to visit my family and go out with my parents, we do whatever we can to keep our smoke away from my mom, because it aggravates her sinuses and makes her stuffy, and we always go outside to smoke when at their house. We don't force it on anyone else just because we want to do it. That is just rude and disrespectful. You should really tell your husband that he either shows you some respect and does what you ask, or you're going to get rid of him. You don't need someone like that in your life.

Sorry to say this, cuz no one likes a stranger to rag on their spouse, but this really pi$$ed me off!! How long has he been your husband? He sounds like he could care less about your difficulties and his total lack of consideration is appalling!! And he's just along for a free ride?? Does he contribute anything to the relationship besides some babysitting? I am trying not to step over the line since I don't know you or your husband, but from the outside looking in, I just see FREELOADER all over this post. Please tell me I'm wrong and he isn't just using you because you are supporting him. Is there a reason he doesn't work? I just can't believe how inconsiderate that is!!! Man! I am really appalled. If he even CARED about you, he wouldn't want to make things worse for you with his selfish habits. I'm sorry Branda, this really bothers me!!!