Which one is better? Lover before marriage or Love after marriage?

I am not married but am in a relationship. I personally belive that if you don't have any love before you get married then how would you know what love is? I belive it is better to love before you wed. Why would you marry someone you do not love them?

whichever works for the couple the better. there are couples who move in together to "test" whether things will work out. i think its one of the advantage of moving in together before marriage. then there are those who chooses to be married first before they could live together, only to find out later that they are really not meant to be. so, for me, i think living together before marrying is better. but as i said, whichever works for the couple. although, i think it would be sweeter and more romantic if a couple marries first then live happily after.

love after marriage because marriage is forever

Love after marriage is 100% better. Because understanding of both will start from that day and it will stay for long period. But I have seen many with Love before marrige ending in quarrel and separation comes faster. I think this not good because it affects their children.

i don't know. but i know a old word: marry the one you liked, and love the one you have married. it means before you get marry you should choose the one who is the right one you loved, and after you marry you should love the one who you have married. in our lives, we usually think there are only one person who is fit ourselves and after we marry, someone think there are lots of persons who is fit him .so he wanna divorce. that is wrong.

I think it should before and after marriage... I mean how could couple move into next level of relationship which is marriage if they don't love each other in the first place, unless they have been set up in some parental arrangements. For someone to get into a deeper form of commitment must have some great courage or great strength within which i think is gained from the love one has for his/her partner. I say they should also be lovers after marriage because they would need the same strength to face life together and perhaps grow old together....

of course AFTER... why? both parents of the couple will be angry if they knew the two are already staying in one room.. Good day!

Love after marriage is better than love before marriage. Love before marriage results love marriage. Love marriage is an emotional decision; it has no guarantee of secure or peaceful married life. Because elders, guardians and parents are avoided in love marriage. The couple selects each other. They start friendship. They fell in love. And then they decide to marry. Love before marriage is good enough, but love after marriage is better.