my friend loved my boyfriend once

Hi, yuncloud! I was in a situation pretty much like yours. A friend of mine has this huge crush with my now boyfriend. They've known each other long before my friend introduced me to him. They were actually in a "M.U.-relationship". My friend often confide to me regarding the confusions she had with their relationship because it was not defined. One day, she introduced me to him. It was a casual introduction. But later, he asked my friend for my number which my friend gave with my consent. My friend and I had an agreement that we will study the life of this person by getting close to him. So he and I became text-mates which eventually we ended up dating. I have told my friend about this and she didn't have any objection because of our previous agreement. When he finally courted me, I asked my friend if I should say yes to him... because by then I was beginning to fall for him. My friend said yes. So we became officially a couple. In the beginning, things between me and my friend are very good but as days and months pass, we suddenly stopped communicating. but I know that it was not because of my boyfriend... For me, its just one of those moments when friends are busy and I keep an open mind in those circumstances. My relationship with my boyfriend is still strong. And recently, though its very rare I see to it that I keep in touch with my friend. Even if she doesn't answer me, I still make an effort to communicate with her. And whatever guilt I kept because I stole her love, I have confessed it to her and after 4 years, I have finally received her acknowledgment. And it makes me very happy that it has all turned out well. Now I'm planning a meeting for the three of us. To celebrate the friendship.

It sounds like you're very jealous and don't trust your boyfriend. A relationship can't survive without trust, so that's definately something you're going to have to work on. Whether or not this ex-friend of yours has feelings for your boyfriend, it really doesn't matter. He's with you and you need to trust him. Nothing she says will change anything if he truly wants to be with you. Your friend is probably hurting a lot right now. You knew that she had feelings for this guy and yet you decided to go out with him anyway. You pretty much betrayed her. Almost every guy you'll be with is going to be a temporary thing, yet a good friend is forever. It's never a good idea to go out with a friend's ex or crush without first talking to them to see how they feel about it. I hope this doesn't happen, but I'm pretty sure you'll end up regretting the loss of this friend.

I found out that my friend almost went out with my boyfriend once, but she told me that he was too nerdy for her, and I said, "What do you mean, 'too nerdy for you'? He's perfect!" I know what you are saying though, and all I can say is this, you cannot help who you and your friend fall in love with. Maybe your friend is jealous of you, in that case, she might not be a good friend, and she may never have been a true friend to begin with.

i have a friend.we do not keep touch with each other.because i harm her.but unlike your situation.i very desire to find that friendship back.

This is something that i think every female will go through. For me i had 6 friends that wanted my boyfriend, but i kept showing how much i loved him and we are married and have 2 kids and we could not be happier!!! Most of all, i got over not being friends with those girls cause i knew all that matters to me most of all is my husband and my kids. So i just forgot about my friends and i have no worries about it. Cause i have made some really cool friends in the past 3 years, and i love them like family.

I've got you all beat. My best friend is married to my ex boyfriend. And we are all just fine with it. It's kinda crazy. Then, I am friends with another girl and our children (she has 1 boy & i have 1 girl) are brother & sister. Everyone thinks that relationship is just plum crazy.

Yeah things like that really ruin a friendship. But you followed your heart and that's the way it should be. You can't please everybody. You said she has her own boyfriend. I think she's cheating by saying sweet things to your boyfriend. I feel sorry for her boyfriend because she doesn't really love him. It's a fake relationship.

the mistake is in your lover/. tell him to avoid her. she is looking too ruthless as she is trying even after she has another lover.dare to talk to her even. and solve your problem quickly!