Can distance kill love?
By mari123
@mari123 (1861)
China
November 5, 2007 1:07am CST
Perhaps true love is beyond distance, but I don't believe it. Can lovers keep itimacy when they leave each other, not too long, about two years? Would you like to wait him/her?There are so many examples that is about distance destroying true love .Also ,when a person is far away from his lover ,he maybe keep that feeling about her for a while until he face somebody .One has to resist something except distance.
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18 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
5 Nov 07
Delay and distance enhances love instead. What is achieved with difficulties will last for long. So struggle and get the loved one rather than love at first sight. Stay in commmunication with the loved one if the one is staying at a long distance.
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@gloria777 (1674)
• India
5 Nov 07
In many cases distance have realy killed the relationship, but if both of them are committed to each, then nothing should come between them. Its all about committment and faith.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
I totally agree with you gloria, relationship is all about love, commitment and faith.
@aninspiration (346)
• United States
6 Nov 07
I feel distance can challenge love but if its true love it should last If you realy love him/her than you will wait because you wont want to be with anyone else but if its not real you'll move on
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
6 Nov 07
long distance relationship before is no doubt very hard, especially if there are time differences involved. can drive people nuts and make people cry too hehe. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries ;) .
@reegan1207 (102)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
Based on my experience, I now proved that long distance relationship cant really worked that much..me and my x-BF had been far away from each other for almost two years..at first our communication run smoothly..not until later part it seemed that he has no load always for his cellphone..we argue always, fight here fight later and fight all the time..
until i found out that he has another gf in there place..at first it is very much painful..i cant imagine why he has done it..after all i have been very faithful to him..it really hurts me..
after that broken relationship i learned that much better if you and your bf/gf must always see each other to avoid this kind of incident..
@talisman (1300)
• United States
6 Nov 07
A cheater is always just a cheater. There's never a valid reason for cheating. If someone is going to cheat, they'll do whether or not you two live together or live far apart. Also, when someone cheats, that means they didn't love the one they were with, so while your long distance relationship didn't work out, there was no love to be killed.
@calicot (256)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
Yes I will have to agree that long distance can kill love, most especially if still early in the relationship, or even if married and with family. Me and my partner have been together for 9 years already, we've had our shares of ups and downs in our relationship. This year and maybe for quite sometime we will not be close together more often, as she started working overseas. I admit it's very, very depressing on both of us for the first 6 months. We constantly communicate thru whatever means (e-mail, ym,text,calls). This will be a great or grave challenge for our relationship, if our 9 years of togetherness will still hold us for more years to come even if we both aren't physically present for each other. Hopefully this Xmas she'll have a break from work and get home.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
5 Nov 07
it's hard to believe but yes it happens. I met my husband online. he was a friend of a new friend. we chat for over a year and decided to marry. we're still married for over 6 years and going strong. I moved half way around the world to live with him and it is a decision I never regret, well weather wise I hate it here but it isn't his fault.
like many things in life, it depends on you. in this case both of you. can you trust him, can he trust you, how much do you know each other etc many people said they know each other but they actually don't.
even if you live together, doesn't mean your love will last. as I said, it all depends on both of you.
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Nov 07
I think that distance can kill love if there is no proper communication. If 2 people are in touch with each other no matter what mode of communication they use, their love grows. They feel the need for each other.
If 2 people are far away and there is no proper communication between them, then there is a chance that the love between them diminishes. They don't feel the need of calling each other to share their happiness etc.
Communication plays an important role where 2 people are far away or staying together.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
It really depends on the situation. there are some who finds ohter love because their love one is afar. There are some who continuously survive their love inspite of the distance. Many factors might affect why others fall out of love. One of it is their love is not really that deep so they can easily forget and find someone new.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
5 Nov 07
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder! I really dont know what I can say. A long distance relationship depends on individuals and how much they love each other. It also depends on the time you two have invested in the relationship. If people love each other so much then distance wont matter, also knowing that the person is going to come back after two years, you will try to perservere even if you meet someone else it will be just for the time being. People in love can wait for even more than ten years.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
No i dont think so. my hubby is 8,000 Miles away from me and we still manage to speak and communicate to one another. Coz in this situation you have to give time to make the love growing deeper and more alive.
We do it by chatting to one another once he comes home from work and even he is in his workplace he still chat with me..And thats good ..missing someone make s the heart grows fonder.
@airlines (44)
• United States
6 Nov 07
It really depends on the person sometime a person is far away and you don't cantact that person then he or she will just loose that love for you but its better to have sometime between a lover to have an experiment its just chemistry in love.
@lilash2 (52)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I for one say that if you truely LOVE someone then distance does not matter. For me my husband is deployed right now and has been for a year. And I can sit here and say that our love has grown even stronger and when he comes home will be the best day ever. He is my best friend and we have grown so much with each other while he is overseas, and it has been so awesome. So YES love can still be there when you have a distance relationship!
@xiaoyaziyaya (2)
• China
5 Nov 07
I can't agree you more!In my opinion,most love can't bear too long distance...If my boyfriend and I were not in the same city,we maybe bid goodbye...
@talisman (1300)
• United States
5 Nov 07
True love withstands the test of time. Something as little as distance won't destroy it. If two people truly love eachother, they'll do anything and everything it takes to be together. Bear any hardships and overcome any obstacles. The first 6 months of my relationship with the man that is now my husband was long distance, with absolutely no visits whatsoever. It was hard, but doable. I would have waited until the end of time for him if that's what it took, though. I love him and nothing can destroy what we have together. Nothing.
@men82in (1268)
• India
5 Nov 07
Th real matter of love is distance . The reason is sometimes i cannot contact for communicating atleast. Physically three months only i can due to my personal obstructions. Day by day thinking feeling of his face and she is facing with the obstrucles in life really distance kills the matter of forty km's only .
@simplyman2006 (1706)
• India
5 Nov 07
well i thinks true love can be or cannot be killed by distance. one think if ur parner really loves from his heart. then he/she will not kill ur love but if. they donot then might be they kill it also.
@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
5 Nov 07
Well, I am in this situation right now. I'm gona be at it for more than a month or so. I will see for myself. How long shall I endure? I don't know..